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Lisa Kurts-Crume
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Date Posted: 21:31:56 07/07/10 Wed
In reply to:
Rashunda Stitt
's message, "Re: Assignment 5" on 16:39:10 07/07/10 Wed
>Although this is a simple post, it is difficult for me
>because I grew up in a female dominated household. My
>father passed away when I was very young so my mother
>and grandmother raised me. My mother modeled
>traditional feminine roles for me, but she also taught
>me to be self-reliant, confident, and outgoing which
>are traditionally seen as masculine traits. My mother
>and grandmother both worked outside of the home. My
>mother is an accountant and my grandmother was an
>elementary school teacher. At that time, accounting
>was a male, dominated field. I remember going to work
>with my mother and her being the only female
>accountant in the office. The only other women in her
>building held the position of secretary or custodian.
>This showed me that women can excel in a
>male-dominated field. However, once I got older, my
>mom shared with me some difficulties she encountered
>as a woman in her field. She wanted to prepare me for
>any obstacles that I may encounter in life. She told
>me, “In the real world, you have to learn to sit on
>your feelings.” She also warned me that if you are
>too nice, people will take advantage of you. It seems
>that people that exhibit traditional feminine
>characteristics are often taken advantage of; my mom
>did her best to prepare me for that. She demonstrated
>how to be caring, loving, and loyal while still being
>firm, confident, and self-sufficient.
> When it comes to household tasks, I believe that men
>and women should split them. Since I grew up in a
>single parent home, tasks were not split by gender.
>However, as a woman, there are certain household tasks
>I do not want to be responsible for. One of those is
>taking out the garbage. I just hate taking out the
>garbage. My mother has always hired a man to cut the
>grass and do yard work. I have absolutely no
>experience in yard work. The only thing I have ever
>done yard related is pick pears from a tree we had in
>our backyard. Those are the only two tasks I would
>not want to do. As far as cooking, dishes, vacuuming,
>laundry, ironing, and cleaning, they should be split
>between the genders.
You have my sympathy for not being able to know your dad. However, your mom and grandmama sound like wonderful women who did an excellent job of raising you to be a strong woman. It is good that your mom was able to share with you insights of working in a male-dominated field. I'm sure it was hard for her.
I agree that household chores should be shared. If both spouses work outside the home, then both should share the chores. And if there are some chores that one hates, then maybe a compromise could be made for those. I don't mind taking out the trash, but he usually chooses to do that chore. However, I will NOT clean out the kitty box. It's his kitty, and his box.
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