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Subject: Re: I thought the rollercoaster stopped....but


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Shari
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Date Posted: 06:41:06 11/16/08 Sun
In reply to: Heather 's message, "Re: I thought the rollercoaster stopped....but" on 14:36:21 11/09/08 Sun

Heather,

Regarding sending him the picture of Spencer and the note...personally, I wouldn't. I would also contact the prison and tell them that you do not want any letters from that inmate. Detaching is detaching, and he obviously hasn't learned his lesson, and is still on the drugs... Oh yea, don't think he can't get them in prison, because he can! More than likely he will get out and start using again also.

But...being the type of person you are where other's needs come before yours and sometimes your sons' (think about that one), I would consider what would happen if it were you in prison and he was out...would he make sure you got things from your son?

I don't mean to sound harsh, but him being incarcerated is the perfect way for you to totally detach. Let his family that was so blind to his actual way of life send him money, letters, and pictures. Use this as your opportunity to totally get out!

My advice would be different if he had ever actually shown any sign of cleaning up and turning himself around, but from what I have read on your posts, all he did was attempt to manipulate you into allowing him into your life. He shows no sign of true rehabilitation and all the signs of addiction.

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