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Date Posted: 13:37:46 11/12/03 Wed
I would request a time to talk with her (and the other parent, if applicable) and tell her you have given her call to you regarding the situation great thought and would like to discuss it with her so that you are both clear on what happened, what she feels she may have "seen", and how she would like you to handle things in the future. It will give you a better chance (phone is always bad for this kind of stuff) to talk things out more fully, and get her to consider your side of things. I would not go in defensively, but rather with the attitude that you are a team, and you want to make sure that you are all on the same side of things here. That you want to make sure that you understand her expectations so that you can help raise her children the way that she wants them raised. If she feels that you are on her side, rather than defensive, you are more likely to come to a mutually agreeable outcome on this. And bottom line, (unfortunately, sometimes) is that they are her children, and she sets the final rules.
tonya
>Hi everyone! I need some advice... I've been a nanny
>for about 6 months now. I moved out of state to nanny
>for 2 middle age boys. The boys are great, we get
>along wonderful, which is the root of the problem.
>This morning the littlest one was pulling the ribbon
>in my hair, I told him to quit, he kept doing it,
>however, we were completely joking around. His mother
>overheard and came storming back in and told him he
>wanted to speak to him provately. I overheard though,
>she told him that if I didn't punish him she would.
>Then I just got a call from her. She said that she was
>disturbed by what happened and that I need to set
>boundaries and limitations with him so he knows who is
>in charge. We have that, when I tell him to stop or to
>go do something and seriously mean it, he does it. I
>tried to tell her that, but she wouldn't beleive it
>because she "has witnessed it before". It's like she
>has to be right, even though she has no clue what is
>going on. I'm not sure how to handle this one. I can
>be reached at jsuewatson@hotmail.com
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