Re: Abortion -- Post Abortion Healing Support

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, 3, [4] ]

Subject: Re: Abortion

Author:
Kris

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 14:26:10 06/27/07 Wed
In reply to: Blair 's message, "Abortion" on 19:35:42 06/25/07 Mon

Dear Blair,

First, I am sorry for your loss. I think the whole lie is that abortion is "a woman's right to choose" and here it's obvious that you were not given any choice. You were forced to do something against your will.

Next, you don't say how old you are - but indicated you were in school - so I assume that means high school. Is your fiance your age? Why are your parents so opposed to him? Has he treated you well? Is he a lot older? Sometimes your parents react to a situation because they feel the need to protect you - they maybe didn't make some wise choices, but it's probably out of their love and concern that they think they made good decsions for you.

Also, please seek out a counselor that can deal with post-abortion issues. It's important that you are allowed to work through the grief that comes from the loss you have experienced.

Finally, remember that you are precious - you are a child of God and He loves you and will always forgive you for ANYTHING that you may do, no matter how "bad" you think it is. If you have a bible, read it - you didn't say what the preacher had to say to you - but if he/she was for your abortion, I would NOT trust them for any spiritual guidance in the future.

You can email me directly if you want to - I will be praying for you.

Hugs, Kris

Hopkinskc@aol.com

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:

[> [> Subject: Re: Abortion

Author:
Blair
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 05:23:23 06/28/07 Thu

Thanks for your reply Kris, I don't like verbally talking about the whole thing because of everything that happened. I don't talk about it to anyone but my fiance cause he's the only one I can talk to about it.

Next, I'm 16 about to be 17 and my fiance is 17 and is turning 18 later this year. My parents don't like him because as my mom said to the therapist we are going to "we are just scared she will end up in jail or something" and I know that's not true because I can put myself in jail just like everyone else in the world can, my fiance isn't going to do it for me. He cares about me more than that and he has always treated me very well. And I know they think they are protecting me but if they keep doing what they are doing they are going to sufficate me more than they already have and I can't take it, I've already had to take more than the average person has. The therapist we are seeing now we're seeing because my mom wanted to start going to him because me and my parents aren't getting along well and she was worryed about me being depressed and her and my dad are the ones who made me that way. In my opinion, it's pretty bad when you are on an anti-depressent because of your own parents.

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Abortion

Author:
Kris
[ Edit | View ]

Date Posted: 10:29:42 06/29/07 Fri

Dear Blair,

The good thing about seeing the therapist is that maybe he can help your mom and dad see that they are the reason you need anti-depressents and they will get the help they need to heal from their own problems.

I came from a very dysfunctional family - my Mom was abused sexually as a child, and also had a bd farm accident that left her crippled on one side. She carries a lot of baggage from those things, feeling unloved, unwanted and all. My dad was raised in WWII Germany and was even forced as a child to be in "Hitler's Youth" - so he is totally messed up from those things and turned to alchohol to numb his pain. They never really "raised" me and my sister. I was the "mom" to my younger sister and even the "parent" to my parents. At 17, I got pregnant - and so I know how scary that is.

I just want you to know that in spite of who your parents are, you do make your own choices and you can choose to heal and move on and get healthy in mind, body and spirit, or you can wallow in the misery of it all and continue the cycle your parents have set up.

I did not get along with my parents either at your age - and I ended up married and moving 1,000 miles away at 18. It really was the best thing for me - hard - but better than all I had going on at home.

I'm not saying you need to do that - I'm just saying - I think I can understand where you are coming from.

The main thing that "saved" me was that I started going to church with my boyfriend/fiance/husband. I had to turn to God to get me through it all and I still always turn to God in hard times.

Life is not easy, and we all have to realize there is a higher power at work that will guide us and love us through the worst of times. I believe that higher power to be the One True God - I hope you can find a solid church setting and start going with your fiance. Your parents can't get mad about that kind of "date" -

Again, you can email me directly and we can "talk" more like this if you want to.

Hang in there sweetie!

Hugs, Kris