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jenni
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Date Posted: 19:08:04 02/23/04 Mon
In reply to:
Bronwen
's message, "Alone" on 01:29:53 02/23/04 Mon
Bronwen,
I am so sorry about your loss! Does your boyfriend understand how much you've been hurt? Many people have this idea that abortion will be able to turn back the clock to time, they don't realise that a woman's life changes the second she gets pregnant, not when she gives birth. Whether or not the pregnancy ends in birth or abortion, the woman's life changes either way.
Guys have a harder time understanding the loss because it wasn't their body that was violated, and they didn't bond with their child like we do. If he's being a jerk about it, it may be that he's feeling bad himself and feels guilty for your suffering.
But the best thing to do is to talk about it... don't bottle it all up. You'll never heal if you try supressing your feelings. You need to grieve...give yourself some time. Try talking with your boyfriend... it may be that you'll keep suffering until your boyfriend validates your sorrow by accepting who you both lost. It's weird how things work.
There is also a lot of women who have had abortions who are reaching out to those you are in need of grief support. www.silentnomoreawareness.com or www.projectrachel.net are just a few.
We are here for you! You are not alone. Over 30% of women abort to satisfy someone else... it's so sad. I can imagine how horrible it was to wake up afterwards. I wish I could take away some of your pain. I'll pray that God gives you peace in your heart...
:),
Jenni
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