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Subject: So confused Author: Jessica [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 01:17:24 04/03/04 Sat Im so so confused. I took a prego test yesterday and it was positive!!!! I have a 18mth son and hes the best thing that ever happened to me. Now that he is getting older I feel a little more free and dont know if i want to lose this feeling. Im only 20 and the thought of having two kids is so scary. In one way I think getting all over with well im so young could be a great thing. Then on the other hand its another baby... My husband and I have talked and we made a apointment for a abortion but its in 20 days and we havent made up our mind we just wanted to have all the options open. Im so shocked by being prego that I find it hard to think about anything else. I dont know if i could go though geting rid of it. It make me sick thinking of it...I feel selfish by even thinking of it. HELP HELP... I cant even make myself go to the doctors to see how far i am...tho i know im probably only 4-6 weeks......I feel so bad that im feeling like this. Please Please write me and give me some advise, ill be so thankful...Jess [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: So confused Author: Jacqueline [Edit] Date Posted: 10:43:00 04/03/04 Sat Dear Jessica, I know it's hard. I know you're scared. But I am here for you. Yes, having kids is a huge responsibility, but you know the love you feel for your son? That's the love you have for this baby. Why? Cause you're a Mommy! That's how mommies are. You already care deeply about your new baby and that's why you hurt at the thought of aborting him or her. But the pain you feel just thinking about it will only get worse by actually doing it. At least right now you have the opportunity to change your mind. Abortion is a life-changing thing. Once you've had one, you can never have that baby back. Jessica, I know you're afraid of the consequences of having another baby, but there is so much help available to you. You can get assistance with the medical bills if you choose to have your baby. You can get assistance with child care, with off and on babysitting, with clothing for yourself and your child. Having dependants on your income taxes also increases your likelihood of going to college for free if you want to pursue a new career. Secondly, you're not alone. Most women who plan to abort (88 percent) are single. You have a husband. And you have my support. Jessica, I am a social worker and a counselor. I help people get the resources they need. If you anything, I can help you. I care about you and your family and I'm here for you. You can always go to your nearest pregnancy resource center(www.pregnancycenters.org) and have a free sonogram. They'll tell you how far along you are and give you more information about all the help they can offer you. They are also caring women and can lend you a warm hug when you need it. Let's talk some more. My email is jacquefromtexas@yahoo.com. If you want, I will give you my phone number and we will discuss all of the things you have available to you and what I can do to help. Or, we can just talk. You sound like a sweet person, Jessica. You're already a loving mother. That's the greatest thing you can be in the world in my opinion. Let me know what I can do for you. Love, Jacqueline