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Subject: Empty Author: Lee [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 11:34:28 10/11/04 Mon It's been four days since my abortion. I was thirteen and weeks when I found the most caring and amazing doctor, a days drive away. After dealing with my local doctor and abortion clinic,I had to find someone else to help me with my choice to end my pregnancy. My family doctor was appaled at my choice to abort and had no desire to help me with the situation. The abortion clinic was the same, telling me they couldn't help me. Period. I searched for an abortion clinic in my area and after calling dozens of clinics, found one. After schedualing my consult, I meet with the most caring woman I've ever met who anwsered all the questions this 21 year old had and when I cried she held my hand and told me I was a very brave woman and it would all be okay. The proceedure went great, little pain and discomfort, but now all I can do is cry. I've no appetite, no motivation to do anything but sleep and cry some more. I have been trying to get in touch with other women who have been through the same and can possibly offer guidence or tips on how they coped. I often find myself holding my empty stomach and wishing I was with my baby, this is not like me at all. Any ideas on coping would be muchly apprechiated. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Empty Author: Shellie [Edit] Date Posted: 10:36:20 10/16/04 Sat Lee, I don't think your doctor was so caring and amazing. And I don't think going through with an abortion makes a person, "brave". Bravery is dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and continuing it, despite your fears. You can't change what's done, but you can move forward and seek healing. In my opinion, true healing can only take place once the person is honest with theirself, which means to admit that they made a poor choice. Telling yourself that you had to do it, that it was a good choice, only distances you from true healing. My advice is to seek God (if you believe in him). He loves you, Lee! He will carry you through this, if only you'll ask. Also, you should consider looking into free post abortion counseling at your local Crisis Pregnancy Center. Take care, Shellie