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Subject: Abortion upset... Author: Rachael [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 22:27:40 12/18/04 Sat I had an abortion on the 30th October 04...after being 13 weeks pregnant! I was going out with the man of my dreams....when I told him...we both agreed to have an abortion...and he wouldn't let me tell my parents! (we were engaged)...but we're both quite young...and we decided we weren't ready for this now...cos things were complicated...work/uni/moving away etc...so we thought we had it under control! The week we were sorting everything out for the abortion...I had a few moments when I wasn't so sure it was the best idea...and he told me he wouldn't know how he'd feel about me after the operation...and whether he'd still love me knowing I'd killed his child?! he didn't like me phoning him and crying that week...but I had no1 else to turn to! the day before the abortion...(family had no idea) I got a phone call from my sister telling me I'm gonna be an auntie!!! she was pregnant too! parents were sooo happy...I broke down in tears and phoned my mum and explained...she supported my decision. I had the aboriton the next day and all went to plan! I felt fine...my boyfriend took me back to my flat (at uni) after the operation...put me to bed and I haven't heard from him since! My brother is also getting married...and I have to be a bridesmaid who ruined the table plans...(boyf was an usher) etc etc...and no1 knows...my sister says I don't understand about pregnancy! I just had an abortion after 13 weeks....I feel sooo much guilt and depression now! I am so alone with no1 to talk to...what can I do? I still love this man...yet he's just left me?! I never even looked at my baby (got no pictures)...I didn't think I wanted to...now I just feel regret! I've killed a little life...and I don't know what to do! I don't wanna eat...go out...flunking my course...and can't tell anyone anything! I just wanna cry...please help! [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Abortion upset... Author: Diane Cheryl [Edit] Date Posted: 13:28:09 12/20/04 Mon Oh Rachael..I'm so sorry to hear your story. Please email me privately and we can talk more. I'm hoping someone else will post and be able to help too. Email me at CHERYL51@aol.com

[> [> Subject: Re: Abortion upset... Author: other one [Edit] Date Posted: 10:44:39 12/22/04 Wed Rachael, Now more than ever, reach out to those around you who know and care about your situation. I have also lost a child, but I also have since had a child who is beautiful and has truly shown me the truth about love and family. You will find this hard to read I am sure. Nevertheless, realize that you are still young and that there is still a lot of life out ahead of you (I am in my 40s, so I do know), and I will pray for you to have a child one day with someone you love who truly loves you. Whatever you do, do not just sit for hours. Get out and do things, more and more each day. Your family may have a tough time accepting your choices but ultimately they will love and support you even if they can not handle it for now. Everyone you love, love them well and with all your heart, and know that love, joy and pain can all exist together and today's pain will make tomorrow's joy so much stronger, as hard as it is to believe right now.