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Subject: Is this Normal????


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Sophie
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Date Posted: 23:55:40 12/23/04 Thu

I had an abortion on Novermber 20, 2004. I felt that it is the best thing to to because I am way to young still in college and yes, I might be in love but I sometimes have my doubts. When I found out I was pregnant I was like so sad and depressed the whole day. I couldn't even think about how I was going to tell my parents or if i even wanted to tell them at all. I talked to my boyfriend about it and in a way he was happy but sad at the same time. He stayed with me the whole day because I didn't want to be left alone. He said that we really should tell our parents and I was really scared and didn't want to( i never did either). He really wanted to tell his mom so he did. His mom's 1st thoughts were that we were way to young and that we should really think about our options before deciding on anything she said that she would sopport us 100% in anything that we did but to think about it really hard and that we had to think about our futures too. She then talked to me privately and said that she had gotten pregnat when she was young too but that she had decided to have an abortion because she was way to young and wanted to finish college.She clearly said that she was not telling me this so that I could have one but so that I could know that I'm not alone if it is an option and that there are many women that do do it, cause I was scared. I told her that i felt that all my plans for the future were ruined but at the same time could see how it could have be a sign from god or something. Anyways to make a long story short I decided to have the abortion because Im still college and I really want to go to law school in the future and keep up my good grades. She said she supported me and said she would give me all the money for it and not to worry about it. I never told my parents about it or anyone else. When I went to he clinic I had a medical abortion because i was only 3 weeks pregnat. They then told me to start taking birth control the following sunday after the abortion and I did. Now I have been taking it but I have one question? I still have not gotten my period and am sure that I am not pregnant. I'm in the middle of my 4th week of the pills and still have not gotten it. Is there something wrong? should I keep taking the pills even though I didn't get my period? i have never been on birth control and don't know how this works! I need some one to please answer my Questions?

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[> Subject: Re: Is this Normal????


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 22:09:51 01/04/05 Tue

Dear Sophie.. I hope you have had your questions answered by now. I'm sorry that you have gone through this experience. How is your relationship with your boyfriend doing?
I'm going to make a post about birth control because the pill is not as harmless as some people think. Will talk to you later and email me anytime at CHERYL51@aol.com
Diane Cheryl
[> [> Subject: Law School and Abortion


Author:
Jen
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Date Posted: 09:00:32 01/08/05 Sat

Sophie,

Your boyfriend's mom might not have had your best interest at heart. She might've been thinking about her son's future when she told you that and didn't want her son to have to pay someone child support. Does your boyfriend know that he lost one of his sisters/brothers? Did she tell him about the abortion? Did you ask her how she "really" felt after aborting?

The medical abortion is not as safe as the clinics want you to believe. (Abortion in general, is not safe... often causes many complications long-term and/or with future pregnancies)The FDA is now thinking about writing on the box of the medication that "death" is one of the many side affects from the drugs. Lipator and Zirtec were both tested 4 times longer before being put on the market.

It wasn't until 2 hours before Holly Peterson died, 18yr old from CA, that her parents found out she was having a medical abortion. She lost a ton of blood, and could not walk or stand because of the severe cramping she was having.

I know a woman who wanted to be a doctor more than anything. She was 20 and going to college full-time when she found out and chose abortion because she thought her kid would mess up her life.

Well, she spent the next few years keeping herself busy and managed to graduate a bit early. Finally the time came to walk up and recieve her "Doctor" title and hold her diploma. She says the second it was in her hand, she wanted to hand it back because she realized what she did to get it. She wanted to give it back and accept her child instead.

Her degree and being called "doctor" ment nothing to her. Those years of studying and going with out sleep, ment nothing... she realizes now that she only made herself stay busy so she wouldn't have to think about the abortion. So she wouldn't wonder about her child, and cry.

And it breaks her heart to remember seeing her own classmates (who were parents) getting their degrees. They chose life and they still made it.

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. Abortion crossed my mind, but I knew I deserved better than what abortion would do to me.

Something came over me. I stopped worrying about whether or not I would make it, instead, I told myself I HAD to make it. Because it wasn't just about me any more, but also, my daughter.

Liberty was born Sept 2000. I couldn't believe I could've aborted her. I think about it every day. She is my happiness, at four years, she cracks me up 10 times a day!

She is also my inspiration and motivation. I graduated last year from my university. I'm currently working on my Master's and plan on having my Doctoral by 2008.

I also bought my first house at 21.

There is so much help out there for single mothers. I wish your boyfriend's mom would have been honest with you about her abortion... I'm sure there is not a day that goes by when she don't remember it and wonder about her child.

I wish she would have told you how the Pell Grant would've paid $5,000 a year of your education for your 4-yr degree so that you wouldn't have students loan by the time you started law school.

Or that it was ok to be afraid, but that there is always hope for every situation! And that the second you held your child in your arms,you'd promise her you'd be the best lawyer possible just to make the streets safe so that she would be safe.

I am so sorry no one gave you that hope. I am so sorry that our society looks at kids as problems. When adults are the ones who create the real problems in life.

I don't know why you're not bleeding. I know that my cousin's friend used the 24-hr emergency contraception and it didn't work. She found out she was still pregnant. The docter told her she had to abort or her son would be messed up and would probably die anyways.

She almost had an abortion, but backed down. Her son was born 100% healthy and is now 3yrs old. He is beautiful!

I've heard that RU-486 doesn't always work the first time. Maybe your child is still alive. Or maybe the drugs worked, but your body hasn't expelled her yet. In that case, you NEED to see a doctor! You could get a serious infection.

I hope all is well.

Peace,

Jen, 24
Liberty, 4



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