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Date Posted: 10:59:33 02/04/05 Fri
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Kris
's message, "Re: A Man's Trauma" on 09:41:35 02/02/05 Wed
Dear Andrew,
I think you are right about the abortion debate/information. There are two "extremes" - yet if you ponder it all for a while, you can probably understand that it is a fairly "Black and White" issue - hence, the only options are to either be for abortion or against it. I personally can't see a middle of the road - how can you "compromise" on either having an abortion or not having one? I don't think you can. (Even in your situation, if a friend came to you and asked if they should go ahead with an abortion, how would you honestly answer them, now knowing what you know about how it has affected your life?)
Anyhow, there is a lot of information out there that includes the emotional consequences, unfortunately, your girlfriend got information from the "pro-choice" view, which claims there isn't anything to worry about. The facts are that both women and men suffer emotionally from the experience. There are also physical risks, some of them life long (I have a dear friend who was made sterile from an abortion).
I had a personal experience at a Planned Parenthood when I was very young (17). I had gone there for a pregnancy test, and freaked when it showed positive. They offered "counseling" and I accepted, the counselor offered me abortion - and I was resistant to it. (I was also raised Catholic & was attending a Catholic High School, and I knew what the church said about that). She then told me there was nothing that she could do to help me! I felt so hopeless and alone - it was the most awful feeling in the world - thoughts of suicide entered my mind the despair was so deep. A few weeks later I had a miscarriage - a bad one that almost cost me my life. I think the stress from the whole thing took its toll on me. I do think that PP has an "agenda" and that they offered me only one option and no help in any other way. That's why my first had personal experience know's you are correct in your assesment of the issue. However, I have volunteered in crisis pregnancy centers since then, and they offer girls more options and give them information on adoption or financial assistance if they are keeping the baby & they need the help. 100% of the young women that came in already knew about abortion and their option there - so they didn't need any details on that, but we had them if they wanted more info. Some would choose to abort, and some would choose to keep the baby now that they knew they had support. A Crisis Pregnancy Center also offers a non-condemning post abortion counseling program that is free of charge - I don't see PP doing that at all. If anything PP works all the harder at covering up the "truth" of the consequences.
The other fact is this, when we humans are void of God, we lack so many things. Our hearts are hard, and we choose to go our own way. That's why you will not find a secular answer to the problem. "Secular" people are looking out for #1 - it's not about loving your neighbor as yourself. Therefore you will not find a caring movement of groups or individuals that are helping women in crisis situations. IMHO.
"Christians" whether Catholic or otherwise are not an entire network of prefect people by any means, but you will find that when someone has truly yielded their heart to God, they loose that hardness of heart and want to help others and "love thy neighbor" - it's a natural progression in that instance. Christian's aren't trying to push an agenda on anyone, only stand up for what they know to be true and right. Christian's founded many hospitals and orphanges and even colleges - all for the betterment of mankind. They still go out into the world and try to do these things.
If you find it healing, I would suggest you look up the history of Planned Parenthood, and abortion and really figure out what it's all about. If things are still too painful, then don't do that now. You need to find peace in all this.
I'm glad you posted here and I'm glad to have shared some dialogue with you on the subject. I truly do hope you can get past it all and feel better when you emerge from it all.
I would only like to encourage you not to harden your heart on it all - something we can tend to do in order to protect ourselves.
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