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Subject: Scared and Confused Author: Amy [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 14:26:57 03/10/05 Thu I am 27 years old and I had an abortion 2 days ago. I think that reality is just starting to set in because I have wanted to do nothing but bust into tears and cry all day today. I feel that my decision was selfish and that I will be punished for it in the long run. I got pregnant by my Ex-Husband. Although he said that he would support my decision either way, he's really not much of a dad to our 2 1/2 year old daughter. My family is super uptight so I asked him to get back with me just until the baby was born so I could have it with some kind of dignity but he refused. I am having a hard time right now grasping what I did and in a way I know that it's only been a few days. If I could go back two days and take it back I would in a second. I try to convince myself that it was for the best, but in my heart I know that it was not the right decision. So now what, when and how does the healing process begin, and how do I get over thinking that I am somehow going to be miserable and punished for the rest of my life for what I have done. Will life ever be normal again. Help. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Scared and Confused Author: Kris [Edit] Date Posted: 22:07:31 03/10/05 Thu Dear Amy ~ First of all, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am glad you are reaching out though, and especially early in your grief. Many women let the pain and hurt go on for years and suffer so much. If you look in your phone book under "Abortion Alternatives" there should be a listing for some kind of CPC or CareNet center - those centers usually offer post abortion counseling for Free - Please take a moment to look them up. You will always find a loving caring woman on the other end and it's totally confidential. If they don't offer any counseling, you can start online here: http://www.safehavenministries.com/ It's a place to start. Also, try to forgive yourself. I'm not sure where you are in relation to God and all - but hopefully you can understand this, God will forgive you and you can heal from this, but you need to give it all to Him. I wish I could just hug you and tell you it's all going to be OK. I will say prayers for you Amy. Love, Kris