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Subject: Feel really lost a week after my abortion Author: Lindsey [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 20:28:44 03/24/05 Thu Well it has been exactly a week since my abortion and after all the pain, cramping, bleeding etc. i am now starting to be hit with the emotional side of things...for the past 7years i have been on and off again with my significant other....he is the man of my dreams but over the past 6months we have been in an awful place...we have been intimiate obviously and i found out in november that is dating someone else while being with me....so the past few months have been not the best so when i found out i was pregnant i really had no choice not only was he involved with someone else who knew nothing of me but those closest to me my family etc. didn't know we were still intimate...when i told the father of this baby he was shocked and supportive he went to my appointment with me and spent the entire past week listening to me cry and complain about almost everything...but now i regret it because i realize even if he doesn't love me anymore i wanted this baby his baby....i always said i would never bort a pregnancy but now i have and i just feel so lost having ended my baby's life and now admitting to myself the father and i should be done i am just a wreck and no one knows but him what i have gone through....just knowing others out there know what i am going through maybe some of you have some advice to help me start healing cause i let my mind think for a moment and i lose it and breakdown. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Feel really lost a week after my abortion Author: Kris [Edit] Date Posted: 09:18:46 03/28/05 Mon Dear Lindsey, I am sorry for the pain you are experiencing. I encourage you to seek out some help to get you through this grief. You can look up a place here: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp or you can also visit this site: http://www.safehavenministries.com/ Your grief is real and you need to start the grieving process so that you don't get stuck along the way there. You will be sad, angry, hurt, etc. this is all normal and you need to feel it all - I always have found that keeping a journal is helpful. No one else need read it, but it can help you sort out those feelings and just express them in a safe place. You really shouldn't go it all alone though, so please do seek out some guidance to help you along the way. I hope that helps - - - Love, Kris