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Subject: Re: I think I need help, I cannot bare the guilt anymore Author: Kris [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 10:50:28 04/15/05 Fri In reply to: Erika 's message, "I think I need help, I cannot bare the guilt anymore" on 02:46:41 04/15/05 Fri Dear Erika, I am so sorry for the pain and sorrow you are going through right now. I want to encourage you to seek some support here. I don't know where you live (since you say "Mum" it makes me think in the UK somehwere). If you are in the US, there are centers that offer FREE Post-abortion counseling - you can look up one here: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/locate.html You can also visit this site: http://www.safehavenministries.com/ They offer some counseling as well. What you are feeling is all "normal" for a woman after an abortion. How you deal with it will determine your life path. You are mourning the loss of your child - and you will go through so many emotions. You really need to seek out others who have gone through the same thing and find healing. Please know that God will forgive you - you need only ask Him - pray and read the bible and most of all - son't go through this alone. I will be keeping you in my prayers. Kris [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: I think I need help, I cannot bare the guilt anymore Author: Erika [Edit] Date Posted: 20:33:34 04/27/05 Wed Thanks, I do feel better actually, it is getting a bit easier. I told my Mum, and even though she said the decision was mine she was just so dissapointed I didnt tell her, and she told me she would have loved to have been a young grandmother. That hurts because not only since I didnt tell her, I could have kept the baby. I cannot believe how understanding she was, she thinks I never want to spend time with her and I dont respect her, which is wrong because I do. It was just the wrong time, we were moving house at the time, and we arent on the poverty line or anything, but we do have money problems, and because of me not working I had to borrow the money. It just makes me feel useless. I have asked for forgiveness and in a way I feel like things have been lifted and I can sleep at night. Mum wants me to get councelling, which I think is a fair idea, but being the person I am I am not so sure. I believe my brain has two levels. The top level is what people say, and I might just believe a shred of what they say, yet the bottom level keeps telling me that people are lying eg:it's noyt my fault, where as I will always believe it will be. It sucks because I can never truely believe what people say about me, it's like when people tell me I look nice or the love me I believe it to an extent but never fully. I just want to thank everyone for their support, you cant understand what it has meant to me hugs & kisses for all xxoo