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Subject: Can't move on Author: Amanda [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 11:02:33 04/21/05 Thu I had an abortion on 7th January 2005. My boyfriend said he wasn't ready to be a father. At the time I felt that I couldn't support a baby on my own, as I was a student and in loads of debt. I found it so heartbreaking having the abortion, as a big part of me wanted to keep the baby. My boyfriend came with me when I had the abortion, and he looked after me afterwards. Then he just stood me up a week later, and wouldn't take my calls or contact me. I felt so alone. I went out with some friends a couple of weeks later and I saw him out. He told two of his female friends that I had aborted his baby without telling him, so when I left the club they were outside waiting for me, and I get beaten up. I just don't understand why he treated me like this. I feel so worthless and I'm finding it hard to carry on with my life. I've quit university and haven't got the motivation to do anything any more, and I don't like leaving the house in case I see my ex and his friends again. I don't know what to do, I just feel like everything's fallen apart and I can't move on. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Can't move on Author: Kris [Edit] Date Posted: 22:17:57 04/21/05 Thu Dear Amanda, I am so sorry - how horrible for your b/f to treat you that way - unfortunately, it's almost the common pattern after an abortion. (The relationship going down the tubes). I want to encourage you to get some post abortion counseling & start the healing process - you need to grieve, and you need to heal. Please look up a place in your area - here is a website to check: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp Many of them offer free post abortion counseling. You can also take a look here: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp Please take care of yourself - don't let the intimidation from the b/f ruin your life. I'm here if you want to talk more - just email me. Kris

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Can't move on Author: Diane Cheryl [Edit] Date Posted: 23:20:12 05/19/05 Thu Amanda, and anyone else reading this, I have post abortion help information that I would be glad to send anyone who requests it. Just email me at CHERYL51@aol.com Diane Cheryl