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to Marie--Ashamed... too many abortions

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Vee

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Date Posted: 10:26:12 11/02/06 Thu

Hi Marie! I can relate to your feelings as well, as I have also had 3 abortions in the past...My first was when I was 15 and was not in a healthy relationship (lived with my boyfriends drunk family), then again when I was 16 with a different guy, and the last (and the one that hurt the most) was when I was around 24. The last was when my youngest child was only about a year old, and my husband and I decided not to keep it. Men can be really supportive when you give them a chance to be a part of everything. I have spent way too much time dwelling on what might have been with my pregnancies, and yes it is embarrassing to admit that i have been pregnant 5 times but only have 2 children, and never had a miscarriage...But, i have recently had a total hysterectomy (i am only 31) to try to help my endometriosis, and found out yesterday that i also had adenomyosis as well. Sometimes i think that God is punishing me for my TA's by giving me major health problems, but then i give my head a shake and try to get beyond my past and build a good life with my husband and children. I guess what took me so long to say LOL, is that there IS light at the end of the tunnel, and you may never be totally at peace with your choices (i am not, yet), but we still all have to move on with life! Take Care of you first and foremost, thats very important!!

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Pat
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Date Posted: 01:33:38 11/28/06 Tue

Hi, Vee!

I hope you will see this. I don't come by this board very often, unfortunately, and I just saw your message.

I had adenomyosis, too, and I never had an abortion. I know it's easy to think that you deserved it because of your abortions, but it happens to many of us.

You will never forget your abortions, but you can heal emotionally. Some of the women who responded here have given good links to programs that can help you get through this. Give yourself permission to grieve. I hope and pray that God will grant you healing. Just know that if you ask Him, He will forgive you, and then it will be possible to forgive yourself.

Hugs,
Pat