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Subject: Re: distance-community

Author:
krz

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Date Posted: 02/ 4/06 2:23:50pm
In reply to: tjm 's message, "distance-community" on 01/31/06 3:21:05pm

I decided to chime in with a response in this post - since I find myself in much the same position as tjm...

>in answer to pa's question, which is the right
>question, i would briefly say that my experience on
>the forum has been educational, provocative,
>inspiring, and motivating.
>
completely agreed here - i find the diversity of experience we each bring to the voy inspirational

>it's also been an interesting and heartwarming
>indulgence into distance-community.
>
ditto

>to go along with that, there have surfaced these
>recurring bouts of seemingly unhealable antagonisms
>that reach beyond the issues at stake and into the
>interpersonal.
>
i also agree and have been perhaps mis-understood on occastion. that of course is one of the dangers of distance communication. the trade off is no communication at all....

>i'm personally feeling betrayed. not by any one person
>in particular, but by the process perhaps. i tend to
>take things too personally, i know, but i am what i am.
>
i too am feeling betrayed - the challenges of distance communication are real and need to be recognized and engaged if such a community is to exist. i think it should - which is why i'm disappointed pjk chooses to withdraw rather than do the hard work of sorting it out. to me it suggests a level of devotion to the community and importantly to the work of friendship that i hope would be assumed. i recognize in full that my previous sentence was inflammatory - it was not, however, meant as a slight in the event pjk is reading. as i am new to this friendship in the relative sense, i can only imagine the pain this presents to those with longer histories. i actually grieve for that in some ways.

all that said, it pjk's decision as to how much work this demands and whether his emotional energies and time are up to that work. i respect his decision to say that they aren't; when nothing is said, however, all i can do is infer.

i would prefer the 4 of us remain in the community and invite pjk to join in as he sees fit. i think there is enough diversity in our mix to add richness to the discussion as well.

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Re: distance-community	tjm	02/11/06 6:12:54am