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Date Posted: 20:44:33 08/16/05 Tue
In reply to:
gabriela
's message, "help me" on 15:06:45 08/10/05 Wed
My name is Gabriela
KW Hi G!
>valdez, i am 17 years old.i think that i may have a
>depression problem or something. When certain things
>happen I'm not that good in handling them, I always
>cry nonstop.
KW Welcome to the human race!
I even think about commiting suicide.
KW Uh oh! That's a big, big no, no! You are about a 5th of the way through your life. What are you thinking? I know life sucks, but hey, it doesn't suck forever. Nothing is ever constant in its intensity. Even people in the deepest depression find that it eventually lifts. The problem with you is that your mom/parents have NOT "invested" you with the diginity that is rigtfully yours - and that's a real shame - a nice girl like you too.
Well about about ago we moved houses, i had been
>living in my old house for 11 years.
KW Whoa, whoa, whoa! R U saying we are going back to when you were 6???
and didnt want to
>move because well my whloe childhoos was there,we
>moved 45 minutes away, away from my friends, my
>neighborhood my life!!! i feeli like i have no life.
KW Well, either way,that's gotta hurt! I don't know how you cope with that one. I live in the neighbourhood I was brought up in. All my memories and roots are here. I'd hate to be estranged from that. I don't know what I'd do. The fact is, this has now happened and we have to deal with it whether we like it or not. I really feel for you. I too have lost everything of the (roots) I held as special in my life. Didn't they/mom consider your feelngs? Perhaps she/they had to move? I hate to say this again, but baby you've got to deal with this as it is now! You're gonna have to smile and put a brave face on it and say, "Ah so what - time we got going here!" Tough? That sound tough to you? Fact is, the power resides with your mom and not with you. You're only 17. But you are becoming more powerful. In time you'll find 2 lessons here for you.
1. Don't put your kids through the same shit.
2. Grit your teeth and say this is my life - I am what and who I am. I may not have power over my situation at the moment, but a day/time will come when I'll be my own boss and command my wn destiny instead of others making decisions for me.
Parents soon forget that they were once teenagers too and that young people of all ages have just as valid opinions/emotions as theirs.
Hey mom, it's no use saying to me, "I'm your mother and you'lll do as I say!" I wanna know why! I'm an adult too - or hadn't you noticed?
>I'm going to be a senior in highs school and had to
>change high schools also.
KW I hope that's not so bad.
it is so hard to start over
KW Tell me about it!
>i hate change
KW I don't mean to sound cold at this point but get used to it - life IS change and this will not be the last of your changes - in fact, it's only the beginning. However, this does not mean that you cannot have stability.
i hate it so much and this past month
>that we moved i'm always crying in fact i'm crying
>right now. what can i do please help me.
KW You are a sensitive soul and you are also at a very difficult stage in your life - teens! It's (perhaps) obvious that mom has forgotten your age. I cry for you too. I know how you feel. But if it's any consolation, you'll eventually get over it and think to yourself proudly that it has made you the great person you are, and also the great person you will become.
i've been
>having problems with my mom she told me the other day
>that i had ruined her life and that really affected
>me.
KW See? What did I say? You're mom obviously had you young in her life. She feels she has lost her youth - a youth denied by your untimely arrival. How dare you be born!!!
Let me tell you something, and I mean this most respectfully - tell her to go **** herself! You have nothing to blame yourself for. But get this too - don't you dare make the same mistake. Sex? Always put a sock on it! Now that doesn't mean that we don't love you! You are love itself - planned or unplanned. It just means that adults are teenagers/children in grown-up bodies. Remember this if you remember nothing else about this post -
"IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!"
help me please i wanna die but then again i dont
>want to think that.
KW The Spirit World is full of lost souls who'd give anything to be in your position. Don't despair. You did the right thing by posting. A greater hand than you or I has guided us this day to write and say what we do. Take care and try to see everything as a learning curve. Think about where you want to be in 5-years time and make it happen. Don't blame your mom for making a mistake that you could so easily make yourself. Time waits for no one. Be your own person and live life for today. We are all slaves if we follow someones else's idea of who we are. Be your own person. Live long and keep on thinking free.
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