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Date Posted: 07:46:16 04/04/03 Fri
Author: heidimom
Subject: Here is what I would do...
In reply to: Candice 's message, "Can I post, here? WWYD, I caught Aodhan (m)" on 07:31:10 04/04/03 Fri

I would have him take it back to the store and apologize. But, more than that, before you go to the store, you have to have a serious one on one with him about the importance of not stealing.

You need to be totally honest with him. Tell him that it dissapoints you. Tell him it is illegal and that if he got caught by the police, he would be in trouble. Tell him that people have to work for things. Have you got any kind of system where your boys could make some money? If so it might be a good idea to let him work for the money to buy things and then once he has enough, take him to the store to get something. This could be the dollar store too. Explain the process to him, so he knows that it is his work (and I mean extra work, not chores) that earned him the money that allows him to purchase things. He needs to understand that stealing is wrong, and why it is.

Finally, I don't think he is going to turn into a jail bird from one childhood stealing experience. I did it more than I care to mention when I was little (never caught) and my dh did it once. Neither of us would dream of doing that now. Oh, and I have a winner of a brother too. You won't have a problem, IMHO, unless this turns into an ongoing thing. Oh, and I wouldn't get mad at him, or *punish* I would just tell him that you will expect that he doesn't do it again. Unless you consider apologizing to the store a punishment. I would consider it the right thing to do.

HTH,

Heidi

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