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Date Posted: 11:51:21 08/20/08 Wed
Author: EC
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Some new topics have come up recently in my conversation with friends. One of them is marriage life. I remember that in a lecture of Christian Ethics class, marriage and having baby are two most interesting class. I even wrote a long paper about marriage. The professor said, the structure of atomic family put too much pressure and burden on a two-people relationship. In the past, when there was problem facing by the couple, the problem was not the matter of two people by two families. Simply speaking, one could have more resources to deal with the problems. Now, all the burdens are built on a two-people relationship as if a rock drops on a thin ice slice. One day, the slice will break.

I cannot agree more than that. Even in Chinese/Christian family, we are practicing this atomic style. Of course, I am not going to deny that having family involvement may have other complicated issues, instead of being supportive. Still, all couples need support. It's tough and it's never easy, especially one needs to be open and vulnerable. I mean, even for an individual, it's hard to be vulnerable about his/her own problem. I can't image how hard it will be when the dynamic involves at least two people.

This reminds the conversation among Vivian, Chris, Keith and I at Korean restaurant. I really enjoy the openness among us which is the way through which we all can get support and, of course, have another fun nite =)

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