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Susan "2"

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Suzanne

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Date Posted: 15:35:36 03/12/04 Fri

Do you live in the USA? IF NOT! Then GET OUT of the country without him. IF this is the case MAKE ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN THIS is what you want to do.

The bottom line is this .. No one has any business being a tyrannt over another human being, to the EXTENT of bringing harm, either BODILY or VERBALY! This is not real GODLY LOVE. I do not care whom THEY name as their GOD.

IF you are still in the home living with him, which I am thinking you probably are. Then YOU need to FIND a LAWYER.

If you live in the USA then there is at least one thing you can do if you feel THREATENED by your HUSBAND. IF you are SEPARATED from him and not living with him. YOU can see about getting a court order preventing him from coming around you. BUT you must get a LAWYER first to lead and guide you.

If you are in the STATES then there are safe havens for woman and their children from abusive husbands until they can get a way to be separated from the abuser for good.

IF you can get to a FAMILY SERVICE center and let them know what is going on and get advice from there. this may also be helpful.

NOW AS TO what would I do?? IF I was married to someone that was abusive. to the point I WAS REALLY SCARED that he might harm me PHYSICALLY!!!! I would very carefully and SECRETLY get a LAWYER. have that LAWYER set me up in a safe haven with any children I might have that are young and would be possibly used by him to get to me. This is usually a DRASTIC move to make and one shoulkd be absolutely sure that LEAVING and DIVORCE is what one is after and NO TURNING BACK.. BECAUSE FEARING PHYSICAL ABUSE IS NOTHING TO mess around with. and a TRULY ABUSIVE HUSBAND is not one who really CARES about HIS wife or HE would not want to harm them . ABUSIVE HUSBANDS are all about having CONTROL!!!!! It also depends on just HOW abusive they are. IF they BACK DOWN in their VERBAL ABUSE when TOLD THAT their VERBAL ABUSE is not getting them anywhere. and they MELLOW. then there is a VERY GOOD CHANCE that they can care enough to LEARN to SHARE and WORK TOGETHER in LOVE and LIFE instead of HAVING CONTROL ALL THE TIME. BUT IF it CREATES MORE HOSTILITY where there is PHYSICAL ABUSE then THIS IS A SIGN that they want NOTHING BUT CONTROL.

MY husband was an abuser VERBALLY, HE could have been a VIOLENT and PHYSICAL ABUSER if HE THOUGHT HE COULD have GOTTEN AWAY with it. BUT the first time HE lifted his hand with a fist made wanting to hit me, I TOLD HIM this. " GO ahead and hit me and see where it gets you." at the same time I was within reach of an ALABASTER ASHTRAY. that was sitting right by my hand. To be perfectly honest I do not know if he saw this or not. BUT . the tone of my voice and having no fear . I guess could have been enough I do not know. BUT I CAN TELL YOU THIS!! I was FULL AWARE HE COULD HIT ME and probably knock me to the floor and even out cold. BUT I had already been in a frame of mind that NO MAN will ever HIT ME without paying a high price for doing so. I THINK HE KNEW THAT. WOULD I suggest anyone trying this.. absolutely not.. NOT UNLESS YOU CAN REALLY HAVE NO FEAR and are certain you can have a CHANCE AT RETALIATION of some form. IN OTHER WORDS NOT end up DEAD in the process.
IN some cases this could very well happen. I FELT fairly certain the most I would get was KNOCKED OUT and end up on the floor. BUT I also knew that that would be the last time he ever would hit me BECAUSE I would have DEFINITLY PUT AN END TO IT ONE way or another. EITHER LEAVE and never come back. OR HE would definitly know the next time he would not get the chance. HE raise his hand again and IT would be HIM on the floor. Then I WOULD LEAVE and never come back.:):)

when it comes to men HITTING WOMAN ???? there is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE .. NONE AT ALL.. and WOMAN HAVE NO BUSINESS HITTING MEN EITHER!! when TWO individuals cannot talk and have disagreements without bringing VIOLENCE into it when they are supposed to be IN LOVE WITH ONE ANOTHER. Then this is NOT LOVE. we all can get angry and have fights so to speak BUT!!! it is natural to have disagreements about things but they should be DISGUSSED and come to an agreement that is GOOD FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY. GOD CREATED WOMAN from MAN to be a HELP TO the MAN . NOT A DOORMAT to be RULED and CONTROLED with NO SAY what is to be done when IT comes to what is GOOD FOR THE MARRIAGE and FAMILY!!!!!! they BOTH ARE TO work and talk and GET TO A CONCLUSION to what should be done.. BUT!!!!! when ONE is a CONTROLLER and is VIOLENTLY ABUSIVE ABOUT IT well that is another thing all toghether and must be delt with IN ORDER TO NOT GET PHYSICALLY HARMED!!!!!!

YOU in the end MUST be the one to DECIDE what YOU MUST do..
FOR it is YOUR LIFE and HIS LIFE and any CHILDRENS life that is IMPORTANT HERE. FOR YOU ALL are CHILDREN of GOD. NONE of us would be on this earth that God has CREATED also if it were not for that FIRST MAN and WOMAN that GOD CREATED. in the first place. WE are KNOWN AS MANKIND.. MADE in the IMAGE of GOD ALMIGHTY.

BUT women should not be abused even verbally or BEATEN, SLAPPED, BRUISED, and BATTERED or end up DEAD by the hand OF HER HUSBAND whom is supposed to LOVE and PROTECT HER .. and neither should any HUSBAND be BATTERED into being RULED BY the woman either BY ABUSIVE PHYSICAL ABUSE or INSULTS. a MARRIAGE is a wonderful thing BUT NOT if LOVE is shown by abuse instead of shareing and careing for each other enough to GIVE on both parts side. BY coming to an agreement with REASONING and TALKING. GRANTED some WOMAN and some MEN CANNOT REASON together .. that is when something has to be done about it.

YOU IN THE END can only be the one to DETERMINE what MUST and HAS TO be done. BECAUSE noone is IN YOUR BODY nor IN YOUR SHOES even IF many have been there before. BUT ADVICE is HELPFUL and YOU MAY get MANY PEOPLE TO ADVISE. and after hearing then one must decide what to do..
EACH SITUATION and INDIVIDUAL circumstance is different one thing never changes .. ABUSE is wrong !! no matter who is GUILTY of it. IT is wrong..

May GOD BLESS YOU! and may HIs HOLY SPIRIT LEAD and GUIDE YOU in all YOUR WAYS. MAY HE GUIDE YOU into the RIGHT and BEST solution for YOUR personal problem. LISTEN to HIS SPIRIT . This takes PRAYER and SEEKING HIM and HIS TRUTH. which means HAVING FAITH IN THAT whom HE has sent TO US ALL to GUIDE and tell US TRUTH. GOD SENT HIS SON, because He loved the WORLD so much. that whosoever would believe IN HIM should not perish but have everlasting life. AND HIS SONS name???? was CALLED JESUS. the RISEN CHRIST that has come in the flesh to BAPTISE with the HOLY SPIRIT. that will GUIDE and LEAD us INTO all truth.
MAY HIS BLESSINGS and GUIDENCE be YOURS..

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