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Date Posted: 12:35:51 03/21/08 Fri
Author: Mikki
Author Host/IP: 71-90-43-43.dhcp.bycy.mi.charter.com / 71.90.43.43
Subject: Re: It really is not FAIR
In reply to: Rhonda K 's message, "It really is not FAIR" on 06:34:21 03/16/08 Sun

I'm with Gem. When I had to tell my parents that I was raped at college...it took me 7 years, and I was in the hospital. We had a family meeting with a counselor there in order for me to tell them. They were shocked, but very very supportive. They were hurt that I didn't feel comfortable telling them. We worked it all out.

If you don't feel comfortable telling your mom what happened, try writing a letter. John Grey has a technique that I learned that is called a feeling letter. You write a letter to your mom, you tell her everything on your mind, your hurts, your pain everything. Sit on the letter for a while. Then write a letter of what you want to hear from your mother about your letter. What do you need from her? What is it that she could say that would make this incident less painful for you. When you finish the letters, sit on it....think on it.....then decide whether you want to share those letters with her, or just talk to her yourself. I'm sure your mom loves you, and maybe she didn't know......maybe she did.....I don't know. Maybe its time for you to let it all out......it took me 7 years to even tell my husband......and it worked out for me, maybe it would work for you as well. You need some peace. I am standing behind you.

Love, Mikki

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I told my brother.. -- Rhonda K, 04:19:48 03/29/08 Sat

Re: I told my brother.. -- Mikki, 16:14:36 03/29/08 Sat