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Date Posted: 22:58:12 07/22/02 Mon
Author: Chris
Subject: I really need some advice :~(

About 4 months ago. My friend was going out with this girl named Cammy. Cammy to me was a really really sweet girl and she was always nice to me. Well i found out my friend was cheating on her with his ex-girlfriend. So i thought the best thing to do at the time was to tell Cammy what was going on. Well on the night they broke up she was talking about killing herself...and she had a previous record of attempts at killing herself. Well i myself..being 19 and Cammy is 15 years old, i had been through that stage in life where i felt like just killing myself alot of times because i am a really tall and skinny guy and people always make fun of me about it except for her..she was the only one who understood me. So when she broke up with him we fell in love. Me being 19 and her 15 i knew might be a problem at first but she was a really mature girl for her age. She understood me like nobody else ever had before. And we just connected sooo well that she not only became my girlfriend but also my best friend. Well we tried to keep our relationship a secret but in order for us to see each other we had to risk some things by being together in public. Well at the time we started going out she was grounded for a bad grade in school and her parents didnt let her use the phone or leave the house..the only way she could talk to people was by use of the internet. So i talked to her everynight for about 5 hours and thats how we carried on our relationship. Even though she lives a mile away from me, it was the only way since she was grounded. Well when she got ungrounded she was able to spend the night with friends. So i would come to her friends house to see her, and sometimes i would visit her at school. Well somebody that didnt like her, found out at school we were going out and told her mom about it. So at first her mom was shocked but accepted it as an ok thing. But her mom didnt tell her dad because she knew her dad would ground her for a long time. (Her dad is an ex-cop for 15 years).So i met her mom one night when we all went out to eat, while her dad was out of town. Her mom said it was ok that Cammy call me on the phone or on the net, but she couldnt see me. Because her mom didnt want her dating at 15. So we had to sneak around even though her mom knew about us, but wouldnt let us be together. So now its been 4 months since we started going out. I have been on 4 dates with her over the 4 months..none of which her mom or dad knew about. I only saw her when she stayed the night with her best friend. Well my girlfriend only had few friends as it was..and she always told me that even though i was her boyfriend..i was also her best friend..because she could talk to me about anything in the world. And she made her life revolve around me. and i did the same with her. Because she was the first person i ever went out with and she is the only person i have ever felt cares about me. I love her soooo much and she loves me. Our love is sooo strong that neither one of us feels we can live without each other. My problem is..her and her best friend had a bad arugment 3 nights ago and it was about me. Her best friend was jealous of me and called me all kinds of names and said she hated me and tried over and over to get my girlfriend to break up with me. I was there when the arugement took place. My girlfriend was cryin and i cried too cause it hurt soo much seeing her cry. And then her best friend said that she never really liked her anyways and didnt want to be her friend anymore. And then to make matters worse. Her best friend called her parents and told them everything about Cammy and I going out over the past 4 months. And it was the first her dad had even heard of us going out. Right now her parents have grounded her without the internet,phone,and she cant soo much as even go into the front yard much less leave her house. She has no way of communicating with anyone. And her parents said that she is not aloud to ever speak to or see me again. And her dad said she is gonna be grounded " for the rest of her life". He is really really mad right now. So i have just lost the person i love most and my best friend. And she lost the person she loves most (me) and her bestfriend. And we both have bad past of attempted suicide. I am just really really worried about her. I love her more than life itself and i care about her more than i care about me, and i know she is cryin her eyes out over losing her friend and losing me, and not being able to talk to anybody but her mom and dad. Her parents are really strict people and thats the reason she tried to kill herself the first time because the pressured her too much. I dont know what to do. I am just sooo scared she might do something to herself or something bad. In a way i feel that she knows that i would want her to be strong during this time, and dont give up on the dream we had of one day getting married and gettin away from here. But i just dont know whats going on. I am sooo scared right now because i love her soooo much and i know she needs me more than anybody else in this world and i am the one person she is forbidden to ever see again. What shoudl i do?? i really really need some advice . I really hope u can help me, Thank you.

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