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Date Posted: 06:09:36 04/01/02 Mon
Author: Sheila
Subject:

Does he like me

Dear Elisha,

My name is Sheila. I�m a 19 years old girl from Holland. My English is not perfect but I try to make it understandable to you.
I really hope you can help me and give me advice.

It�s a long story,,, but please read it. It will take 2 hours of your time and I can imagine that you have a busy day and that you might not have much time, but please read it and give me your advise.

My problem is about this guy I know. It�s a long story,, but I have to tell you everything otherwise you might not understand everything. Maybe at some points you will think why does she want me to know those things and why does she mention that??? Well, I just want you to have the feeling that you know the details and that you know everything, so that you can help me even better.

It�s like this:
About 6 months ago I was at college and 1 day I noticed a boy looking at me. When I looked up to him, he looked the other way and this happened many times. I started to like him too. Since that day and further I knew he liked me(at least I thought that he liked me).anyways�
This eye contact thing went on for weeks and weeks�almost every time we saw each other we had eye contact, even if it was for just a second. And usually we saw each other at the break. If I sat somewhere for instance he tried to sit somewhere around/ near me(but not close). Somewhere where he could see me. He never sat with his back to me if he had the choice. I did the same. And almost every time when he wanted to leave,, he looked back for just a second, just checking if I�m watching his direction or not(and I did). This went on and on and on�.in a word we had eye contact almost all the time. But we didn�t smile at each other or make any gestures or anything like that. We just looked at each other.(I think in fact that we looked serious to each other).
I liked him very very much and I had the feeling that he liked me too. I had told my friend about my feelings for this guy and she knew everything that was going on. I wanted so much to talk to him , just make a conversation. And I wouldn�t do anything also, cuz I think that�s up to a boy to make a move and hey he probably didn�t like me, he just liked watching��.. But I couldn�t understand why he didn�t make any move towards me, why he didn�t come and talk to me, why he didn�t try a thing. It made me crazy, cuz I thought, well, he probably doesn�t like me, if he did, hey would have tried something by now! He has had many opportunities. I mean now it was 2 months later or so�anyways�my friend had an idea. She said: well I�m gonna talk to him, just for you, I�m gonna start a conversation, is that all right? Well, shall I? First I said nooooo, don�t, I will be so embarrassed if u do that, and he�ll think that I told you to do that, but later I thought, why not, I have to give this a try, and I have to find out he likes me or not. I just needed to know that�
Well, 1 day we were sitting there and then he came with his friends. They went and sat to the table next to us. And my friend said, shall I? Shall I? I don�t know I said, no, let him, never mind, if he wanted something he would have tried, but in my hart I wanted her to speak to him. Well my friend did it anyways, she knew me and she knew I wanted it. So she started with talking. She said: hey, where do you come from? (By the way my friend and I are from Persia and that boy is Kurdish from Iraq), he looked at her and said: from Pakistan (as a joke)
Later he said, no, I�m just kidding, I�m from Iraq but I�m Kurdish bla bla bla. And so they started a conversation. I couldn�t open my mouth. I just couldn�t say anything. Most of the time I looked somewhere else. I couldn�t look at him or do anything. By the way he didn�t either. He almost never looked at me or talked to me or anything. He just answered to my friends questions.
She asked him how old he was, he answered (20 at that time, now he�s 21) and then he asked her age and mines. She asked him about everything, his name, his homework, his friends who were sitting next to him, which year he was, about everything. It was actually kinda funny� by the way we do the same study (computer science) and we�re both starting on the first year. Anyways�
Well days passed on and after that day, the eye contact thing became less, I don�t know why, I think we were both a little embarrassed or something, or maybe he didn�t like me anymore. I don�t know.
Well, my good friend tried many times to come in touch with him, if she saw him walking somewhere, she called him and talked to him, just for me, he was very polite, he always answered to her questions, but I never opened my mouth, like always I stood there but looked somewhere else. I don�t know, but I thought, no, don�t talk to him, don�t look at him when your friend is talking to him, don�t do this. Don�t do that, cuz he might think you like him and that you you�re like a dog following him and that you teach your friend, say this to him, say that to him�and of course I was shy. But that�s soooooo strange, I�m never shy, but around him I was� That�s why I didn�t do anything. And of course that thought in my mind that he might not like me.
But I think he never liked me, I think I was just blind to see the reality. So many times he had the chance to talk to me when no one was around, so many times, I did something to be just near him, but he usually ignored me/ us (friend too). I just didn�t understand. Why did he do that? Why?? If he didn�t like me then why eye contact for such a long time�I just didn�t understand, but I couldn�t forget him, it was so difficult, I saw him almost every day and that made it even more difficult�. the eye contact thing was over actually.
This went on, later, much later (1 month or maybe 2 months later) we had class and we went and sat in the class. We were at the wrong class but we didn�t know. And suddenly he came in. It was his class. He looked very surprised when he saw us. And of course he was, cuz we didn�t belong in his class. Anyways in that class the teacher had formed a square with the tables, so all the tables where next to each other. Next to me, there were like 3 chares untaken. He came and sat next to me (he sat on the left side, my friend on the right side). During the lesson we started talking and it went very well, and I started to like him even more. We talked about the lesson, about Persian music, about talking Dutch. Just everything. When he came and sat next to me, he said, hello, what do you 2 doing here? I said: well, taking grammar lessons, he laughed and said this is not the grammar lesson. Then we knew we were at the wrong class. So that�s actually how we started talking. And my friend knew I wanted to talk to him so she didn�t interrupt and talked to girl next to her. It was so great talking to him and he was so nice and gentle. That moment I had the feeling that he really liked me, cuz every time I said something to my friend or to the teacher he looked at me and I don�t know I just had that strong feeling�.
It�s so strange , 1 day I had the feeling, no he doesn�t like me cuz he did this and that, another day I have the strong feeling that he liked me, cuz he did bla bla bla�. But you know he�s so strange, 1 day he�s so nice and says hello to me the other day he acts that he doesn�t see me. Why???
Well I don�t know after that moment it went better or not. At that moment I thought it went better, but now looking back, maybe I saw things that weren�t there. I don�t know.
Oh 1 day, I went to the lady�s room and when I came back I saw my friend and G (that guy) talking. I joined them. Like always I was quiet. And I don�t remember exactly what they were talking about, but I guess school. Well, my friend had once asked him if she could use his cell phone to send a message to here friend�. And he said first why don�t u use the Internet, why do you wanna send it with my cell phone? (If u send a message to a person, the person will see the phone number of the person who send it), so I said laughing, well, he doesn�t want to give you his cell phone, cuz then his number will be shown. He said no, no, that�s not it. anywayz he gave her his cell phone�well that day when I came back from the lady�s room, he kinda brought that up. I don�t know what happened exactly, but suddenly he said smiling to my friend: yeah, just admit that you wanted to have my number, yeah just admit. And my friend said, hey G, if we wanted to have your number we would have just asked, that�s not true. He said something like, yea yea ok, and he left.
Well I had told my mother all this, and I asked for her advice. I told her that I liked him very much and the things he had said or done� my mother said do you really, really like him. I said yes. She said: well then he probably likes you too. What makes you say that I said? She said: well most of the time (but not always of course) if you like someone that someone likes you too. If you don�t like someone that person probably doesn�t like you. It�s like an invisible connection. Not only if you have a crush on someone, but in general, with the people you meet every day�. I also told her about that he had said to my friend, yeah admit that you want to have my number� I asked why did he say that???? She thought for a while and said well; maybe he likes your friend. But why did he always look at ME and smile at ME and not at her??? I don�t know she said�she said: well maybe he wanted to start the conversation this way. He says that, hoping you would react and say: yea yea yea I like you�.maybe that was it. She asked me how long he�s been living in Holland. I said 5(by the way I�ve been living in Holland for 9 years). I knew that it was 5 ,cuz my friend had asked him that at that very first conversation. Anywayz�. my mom said, well, he had been living most of his live in Iraq, he�s been living in an other culture, where it�s not so self-evident that a boy goes to a girl and starts talking and where it maybe isn�t so self-evident that boys and girls have contact or have a relationship if they�re not married or something like that. He�s not like the dutch boys, who will show immediately to a girl, I like you and try something. He only lives 5 years in Holland, he is not like the other boys from Asia who have been living here their whole life and grown up with this culture when it comes to the issue boyfriend/ girlfriend. I said, yea maybe you�re right�. we�ll see. I also told my mother that he barely looks at me or talks to me and that he talks to my friend and looks at her and jokes with her, like he knows her for years and when he talks to me, if he does, he is serious. My mom said well, maybe he�s just shy, cuz shy people can talk and joke and be comfortable with people they don�t feel attractive to and are not in love with. But with the people they�re in love with and like they can�t talk or do something. Maybe that is it.
I told my mom that I was very shy around him and that he also didn�t say a thing. My mom said well, maybe he�s shy. I said, why wasn�t he shy telling, yeah just admit that you wanna have my number??? Why had he the courage to say that??? But not talking to me??
My mom said that I shouldn�t be shy and just talk to him start an conversation and ask him to go and grab a bite somewhere or anything. I said noooooo, I will never do that. I will be so embarrassed if I do. I�m not like dog following him.
But from that moment I tried not to be so shy cuz I�m never shy and be cheeky like I always am. So one day I saw him in the hallway and I pointed with my finger to him to come to me� something that I didn�t expect actually of my self�he did come� that day I had brought my laptop with me to college. He said: you bought a laptop? I was listening to Persian music and, when he entered the room he heard the music. He said, heyyyyy that song!!!!,, and sat next to me (there was a chair next to me). What else do you have? I showed him, anywayz he must leave, cuz he had class and we said goodbye.
But he�s so strange, like I said 1 day he�s nice and everything, the next day acts like I don�t exist. I saw him 1 day sitting in a classroom working. I was busy somewhere else with my homework. I didn�t understand it quit well. I thought, what the hell, I just go and ask him to help me. And I did. I went to him, I said hello, he looked at me and the very quick he looked back at his computer and said almost unintelligible hi. I said, sorry to disturb you, but I don�t quit understand this, do you have the answers for me, so that I can look at the answers and maybe that�ll help? He looked at my book and said very quickly and again unintelligible, here first you have to do this bla bla. He was so dry and so indifferent, like he didn�t care I was talking to him and it was like he wish that I was gone. At some point I had the feeling that he was emberessed for his friends that he was talking to me. I don�t know, I didn�t wanna stay there for a second any more. I said, well, never mind, I see that you�re busy with your own homework, I shall go and don�t disturb you. Yes he said�oh I was soooo angry with my self�. How could I be so stupid to believe that he liked me.??? He only likes watching girls and give them the feeling, I like you�.. I was so angry and hurt at that moment�. but I just couldn�t get him off my mind and I still can�t acctualy. After everything I still like him.
This whole story may sound a stupid story to you and my problem may sound a problem that�s not important, cuz after all, there are so many people with much bigger and more important problems that when you compare it to my problem, my problem means nothing. I know that, but this is MY problem and it�s making me crazy.
I don�t know why bust sometimes when I saw him I smiled at him and he smiled back. It�s simple, I still like him�. And sometimes when I smiled to him or something liked that he came to me and asked about the homework and stuff. (But not always, like I said some days he acted like he didn�t see me, strange, very strange) Well, usually when I�m working and I don�t have class I sit in a little room doing my homework on my laptop with Persian music on the background (on my laptop). So he knew I liked music and stuff. 1 day after smiling at him he came to me and started a conversation and at one point he said, I have a CD-Rom of Persian music, do you want me to bring that to school sometime so you can copy it to your laptop. Yes I said, very much. He said ok, I�ll take it along with me tomorrow.
That next day we didn�t see each other. But the day after that we did. He came out of the computer classroom and I happened to meet him when he came outside. We said hi and stuff, and started talking and after a couple of minutes he said, by the way I�ve brought that CD-Rom for you. Great I said, well I�m here at the 6th floor the whole day, so if you don�t have class you can find me somewhere here. Ok he said. But you know what strucks me now, looking back at that moment, that while we were talking our distance became more and more, at that point when he I said I am at the 6th floor he already was 5 meters away. I don�t know why this happened. Cuz I liked to be near him. Anyways
Well that day I was working and he came in and gave me the CD-Rom. And he took a seat. Suddenly we had to go to another room cuz a teacher wanted to use that room. So I grabbed my stuff and we went upstairs to another room. My friend wasn�t there at that time; she knew I rather wanted to be alone with him. So there we were, alone, in that room, it was quiet for a while, but later on we started talking about everything. Our classmates, teachers, music.
Well at some point (I don�t exactly remember all the details) but suddenly (oh by the way I live on my own, cuz the train distance from my parents house to college is too much) he knew that, he had asked me and my friend once where do you live and stuff) anywayz, suddenly he said: you live alone huh? No boyfriend? No husband? I said no, thank goodness, but I thought he asked you live alone, not with other roommates, and here in Holland is it possible that students share a house or room together. Well I misunderstood him, so I said, no thank goodness. And he looked surprised and he blushed and looked quick to the computer not to me, and asking thank goodness? Why do u day that? I said, well I�m only 19 years old; I don�t wanna get married now. He said but do u wanna have a boyfriend? I didn�t expect that question at all!!! I didn�t know what to say, I was thinking when he asked does your mom allow you to have a boyfriend? My mom? Yes she does, she doesn�t have problems with that. But I have never had a relationship with someone. He said, that�s good, keep it that way. And I'm not that kind of girl that has another boyfriend every day you know. He said yea I understand, you�re right.
Later my friend came in and said: do I interrupt? He smiled and said yes. Oh she said and she went. Why did she went he said. I didn�t mean that, I was just kidding. I don�t know I said, she probably had class or something. And later when he saw her, he said, why did u leave, you weren�t interrupting, we weren�t learning or something like that.
Later that day we happened to see each other again. It was 4 pm, he wasn�t gone home yet cuz he had class at 5:30 so did we (same class we thought we had grammar lessons)
He came towards us and asked what we were doing and we said we have to find a teacher to say that we take the same lessons as you, cuz our lessons are on Tuesday and we can�t on Tuesday anymore cuz we have an other class. We have to go to the other side of the building now. We walked together (my friend, he, I) to the elevator. I asked him, what are u going to do till 5: 30. He said, I think I�m gonna go for a walk outside. The elevator came and while we were stepping in my friend said in Persian go along with him! I said sssshhh, he can understand Persian, don�t say�. (We had found out that he could understand some Persian, cuz he told so him self, at least he said I can understand very very little bit. but when I told my mom that, she said, no he�s playing. He can understand Persian perfectly, maybe not all, but 80% of it. Cuz I told my mom that he had said that he listens to Persian music and his grandparents can talk Persian and he has been in Iran once, I told this all to my mom, and my mom said, well then of course he can understand Persian, if someone doesn�t understand a language they won�t listen to the music and they certainly won�t know the singers. Cuz he did know the singers, once we were talking he named all of them. And now looking back that day we were talking about singers he actually sang the chorus of a song.
My mom said of course he didn�t say to you, yea I can understand Persian; he liked to act like he only understood couple of words. You 2 have been talking Persian about him huh, when he was around or next to you. Yes I said. My mom laughed and said, he liked that, you 2 talking about him and he could understand everything, if he would say, yeah I do understand, you 2 wouldn�t talk anymore!
Oh my god� so embarrassing , many times we were near him where he could hear us and talking about him in Persian!!!And all that time he could understand everything and he acted like he didn�t know� ohhhh
So, from that day we were careful about talking Persian when he was around, but that particular day my friend was forgotten about it.
Well, anywayz I said, shhhh, don�t say, he can understand� like always he acted like he didn�t know what she had said. We stepped in and my friend said: hey do u understand Persian. Yes he said, a little. She said: did u understand what I just told her. He said: yea something like, go along with him. She nodded. I was looking at the ground�. I was sooo embarrassed�. We stepped out ,we started walking and my friend started saying: well, can we come?? He smiled. My friend said: if u don�t us wanna come, just say ok? So what is it?? And he didn�t say much, just laughing actually. But later he said, I am just going outside bla bla. and at a point I said smiling to my friend: let him, maybe he doesn�t want us to come. He laughed and said smiling: don�t interfere; I�m talking to her. Well, we were downstairs at the ground �floor. We stopped for a moment cuz at that moment we had to go upstairs at the other side of the building and like he said he wanted to go outside. He said: you 2 have to go upstairs? We nodded, he said, I first gonna buy some food maybe I see you when I come back. Ok we said, and said good-bye.
We went upstairs and looked for the teacher and we now wanted to go downstairs. We were waiting for the elevator. As we stood there, my friend said, hey maybe we can see him from here, I said no, he�s probably gone already, if he wanted us to come he would have said. My friend looked and said, hey, look, he�s sitting there, waiting for us!! I couldn't believe what she was saying, but it was true, he was sitting there waiting with his hands in his pockets. I was so happy, oh I like him so much, I like him so much, I said to my friend, and I could see on her face that she hadn�t expect this either. We went to him, and he smiled, I didn�t actually, I was sooo nervous. We went outside. He asked where do you wanna go? I said, I don�t know, shall we go to the mall? And we went to the mall.
Oh my god ,on the way, every time my friend walked next to him (in the middle) she stepped back and let me walk next to him and then she came walking next to me. She did this every time! It was so embarrassing for me. Cuz I didn�t want him to know that I liked him, maybe he didn�t like me I thought, you never know, and now he will think that I teach my friend to do things like this� and many times she pushed me with her hips to him.ooooohhh�but I know she did it just for me, she�s so nice. At that moment I was like, stop!! Please stop!! And he saw everything, I saw him looking, he saw her pushing me, he saw her moving places that I could walk next to him, but he acted like he didn�t know anything.
Anywayz, we were at the mall, after walking some time, he asked to us: Are u thirsty? I said no, my friend said yes. So we went to drink something. He asked us what we would like to drink. I said coke, and he asked to my friend what does the little child want? (As a joke) cuz my friend sometimes acts like a child just for fun, not that she is still a child or something.
When he came toward us with the coke he smiled at me and I smiled back.
He bought us coke and said go and take a seat, he ordered and paid for it. We talked, actually they talked, I didn�t say much, about hobbies, school and stuff, he almost never looked at me or asking me something, well neither did I. He and my friend were talking and if she told something, he asked her about that and stuff. At one point, my friend said: enough about me, why don�t you two talk?? What do I have to say, I said? Well what are your hobbies? You know that I said. No I don�t ,tell us� I knew she wanted me to talk, but I was like, oh please stop, I�m embarrassed. And I said in Persian to her I am so embarrassed. And she translated it for him and said she�s a little embraced. He smiled.
We went together to class and set next to each other. That day was the time being the last day we saw each other, cuz it was Christmas holidays.
2 weeks I didn�t see him, I went crazy, I told my mom, and I was so excited about everything. And she was glad that I wasn�t as shy as first�. I thought well, maybe, something will happen, if he didn�t like me, he wouldn�t go with us to the mall, cuz then he would give the wrong impression and guys don�t want to give the wrong impression to girls they don�t like, do they?? Al these questions kept me busy and I couldn�t wait till I could go to college again and see him.
I never had felt this way for any boy in my life. And like I said I never had an relationship. I think that an relationship is only useful if the girl and the boy have future plans and love each other and wanna marry. And since I knew I wouldn�t marry 1 of those guy I had met, I never gave any of them the impression that I liked them and I wasn�t in love with them. And never wanted a relationship with someone. But now I had for the first time the feeling that it might be him, the one I�m going to marry, the true love�I was in love with him. But I guess I was living in a fairytale.
After the holidays I had the feeling that everything was different. He saw me couple of times but acted like I wasn�t there and that he didn�t see me. I was very disappointed� I just didn�t understand. Why is he like this?? My friend wanted to comfort me and said: well, maybe he was in a hurry, or maybe his was working about a project with his friends and he couldn�t just leave them.
Many times I looked for a second his direction, sometimes in his eyes, to see if he was looking to me, but no, he wasn�t looking. It happened once that he kinda hided himself behind 1 of his friends so that I couldn�t see him and he couldn�t see me. It was very strange and I just couldn�t understand, even till now�
Sometimes I tried to be alone, I thought maybe then he will have the courage to come to me and talk. But no, he didn�t, he didn�t even say hi�. And most of the time that he did say hi, he said it to my friend and if he wanted to ask something he asked it to her! Well, maybe he DID like her�. I mean that�s the only solution�. There were many times that he could walk with us to the train station, cuz all 3 of us have to go the same direction, but he didn�t. He had so many chances to do something, to say something. Yeah sometimes he did say something to me, but I don�t know, maybe he did that out of politeness. Like 1 day, I was sitting alone somewhere; my friend was going to check her mail. Before that I saw him downstairs and he saw us and smiled to me and I smiled back. He�s so strange, why is he like this, 1 moment smiling and talking the other moment avoiding me??? Anyways, I was sitting alone there, and suddenly I saw someone outside behind the window watching my direction, I looked closer and I recognised him. The distance was big, but I could still recognize him. Yes he was talking with his cell phone and he was walking up and down. And sometimes he looked my direction. I acted like I didn�t saw him. Suddenly I saw him coming my way, I looked the other way, like I don�t know your coming. And I didn�t want to give him the impression that I was happy that he was coming to me. And besides I was still kinda mad and hurt about the way he had treated me. Anyways he cam to me and asked: may I sit here? Sure. We started talking.
Now I really didn�t understand, if he didn�t like me why should he come to me and talk??? I don�t know, probably out of politeness I guess.

Now it�s 6 moths from the very first day me had eye contact� the last weeks he�s kinda normal. He says hello every time and acts normal. But after an event that happened I am trying to forget him. This is how it went:
He had given me that CD-Rom once with the Persian music, my laptop had a technical problem and the hardware had to be deleted, so were the songs. So I told my friend would you please ask him if he wants to bring it with him once more? She said do you wanna come with me, I said, no, no, you go alone (I thought he doesn�t like me, why bother him,) I just wanted that CD-Rom and I don�t wanna give him the impression that I�m after him or something like that, or that this is an excuse for me to talk to him. So my friend went to his room and after couple of minutes she came back. He said he will come here in a second.
Well he came, he was very nice and gentle. We agreed to see each other Tuesday at the break. And my friend said: where exactly are you then? Otherwise we have to search for you everywhere. He thought for a while and repeated twice: where am usually at the break, where am I usually at the break (looking back I think it was just an act!!), and then he said to my FRIEND: well, I can give you my number, so that you can call me and ask where I am at that moment. I was like, I wanna die, he�s flirting with my friend in front of me ��
And then he says to her: only if you wanna have my number of course. I wanted to dieeeeee. Why, why did he say that??? So, he likes my friend, oh my god, al those girls and he chooses my friend, at that moment I felt so stupid, all that time, he didn�t like me, he liked my friend, while I was thinking, ooooh he was looking at me, ooooh he talked to me, ooh this, oh that.
I was very upset that day. Later I told my friend that I was very upset about it and that there�s something on my mind what I wanna tell her, but I can�t, cuz I feel so sad and stupid.
I said it�s about G. She said actually, I have to tell you something also, but I don�t know how to start. And then she said it. She said: I think that G likes me. I said yes, I think that too, I wanted to talk about you about the same thing. She said, actually I had this feeling for a while, but I didn�t have the courage to tell you. It would seem so arrogant, like, hey G doesn�t like you, he likes me, like I think that all the boys fall for me. And I wasn�t 100% sure of it, but after that day I was. Do you know why I did think that? Cuz every time ,he talked to me and joked with me, and he tried to walk next to me, every time I came walking next to you, he later on came walking on my side. And now my number�.
I said: yes I know. But why didn�t u tell me before, then I would stopped acting so stupid, thinking that he likes me, all that time I had my thoughts of course but I had had always the strong feeling that he might like me. Cuz I thought about everything that had happened and then thought, well, if he didn�t like me why did he do that, and why did he smile and I don�t know, everything. But after that day, I felt so blind and stupid�..
I was glad that we could share our feelings with each other and that we were honest to each other. But I felt miserable. At night all the memories came back, all the things he had done, and now it seemed all so meaningless. After all ,I thought, he didn�t mean anything by all those things, all that time he liked my friend. I thought: Of course he didn�t look at me or talk to me when my friend was around and of course he talked to her and looked to her and asked her questions. Cuz he likes HER!!
But I accepted it. I mean he has the choice to fall in love with every girl he likes. He�s not obligated to me or to anyone to like me if he doesn�t. Though it was very difficult and it still is.
By the way that Tuesday my friend called him up to ask him where he was. It turned out to be a wrong number. She called me up and said: he has given me the wrong number! I said are you sure? Maybe you have written down the wrong number. Later she said to him, hey you have given me the wrong number and he said no, I didn�t. He showed his number and it turned out that my friend had written down the last figure wrong.
He said to her: check it, call to me now and hang op. she did. And guess what? Her number was shown on his cell phone. She said: oh ,I didn�t want you to see my number. I was totally forgotten that my number would be shown. He smiled and asked to her: what�s your name, what�s your name. She said: hello, wake up, my name is Sara, remember, and he typed in Sara. So now he had her phone number. And I was like; I don�t want to be here, how could he do this. On purpose!!! I think he asked on purpose, check it, so, that she would call, and of course he would see her number, cuz she hadn�t turned of the number narrator of the cell phone. My friend thought he had done it on purpose also.
But till to day he has never called her, or sent her any messages.
He�s kinda normal now. He says hello when he sees me or us. But I have never understand the things he has done and I don�t think I ever will�. if I did it would be easier for me to forget everything and move on.
But I have moved on now. Of course I thing about him sometimes and he�s in my dreams sometimes�
But I don�t know I still have the feeling that maybe he does like me, if he did like my friend why didn�t he call her by now or say something to her? But then, if he does like me why didn�t he say something to me???
I don�t know , but I have to say that when a guy likes me or likes my friend I immediately notice that by the things he says or does. And my friend knows that about me too. I have told her many times that guy likes you I think. And she says, come one, dream on, what makes you think that, well I say, the things he have said, the way he looks at you, the feeling that I have. Later it always turns out that I was right. And then she laughs and says: wow, yes you were right.
But this time I really don�t know. Well maybe I do, but I�m hoping for a miracle or I�m just blind to see and admit it. But that�s not me. I�m the kind of person who will accept the reality like it is and will find a way to move on. I just wish that he liked me, but everybody has wishes, right?
I still see him often, and I�m not shy anymore, cuz I�m like, he doesn�t like me, so why to be shy ,he doesn�t pay attention to me, but to my friend and I know him for like 6 months now, I�m not shy anymore. But in my heart I hope that I�m wrong�cuz I think if he didn�t like me then why did he��

Please give me your advice, was he just playing with me, with us??
Or did he like me and maybe now he don�t?? Or never liked me?? Or does he still like me??
Can you explain it to me? My email address is: somebody335@hotmail.com� I hope that you send me an email. I truly do.

Maybe he�s different than the other boys and maybe it will work out someday???
But if it does, shall I go on with this??? Is he a good guy, or does he do this with every girl

Ps: I have to admit that he has been very polite always,
I have talked to my friend and she is very honest and she said that she doesn�t like him and I believe her.
I always see it in the eyes of a guy if he likes me or not. Cuz if they do like a girl the eyes are different when they talk to her and they change when they talk to someone else. Like they shine or smile at me. I had this feeling with this guy also, but then, maybe, I was in love and wanted to believe that and only thought that? But then,, I am a person who will accept things the way they are. But if he liked me why hasn�t he done anything by now??

I thank you for your time and I hope that you can help me. I really hope you will�

Yours sincerely,
Sheila

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