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Date Posted: 06:11:24 03/23/05 Wed
Author: Tony Lang
Subject: Re: What who where why?
In reply to: Mike K. 's message, "Re: What who where why?" on 00:06:30 03/23/05 Wed

My withdrawal, was not necessarily a judjgment on you. It was simply a piece of self protection. Because in the past I was very hot headed, short tempered etc,etc this is something that I want to fight because I realized it is a road that leads to nowhere and that one ends up having to apologize to often. So the moment when I feel my blood pressure rising I tend to withdraw. It keeps me humble because people think I am running away because I cannot think of an answer. There is a danger because I am a native speaker and an English teacher, generally this means that if someone says something to me I dont like I can repay with a high rate of interest and hurt someones feelings.
I no longer want to do this. In the past I would have enjoyed it ,but not anymore.
The problem here was we started discussing a subject where there was wide spread disagreement over the net. These things are best discussed face to face. Where as I said one can observe body language facial expression, atmosphere.
On the net we are anonymous, we can say anything. We can claim spiritual experiences far greater than anything we have experienced. So these claims on the net lack authority. They are not as believable as when someone is sitting in front of me. You asked me if I believed He is able to finish that which he had started. Well the expected answer would have to be yes. And it is the easiest thing in the world to say yes and claim spiritual maturity way beyond the level I have reached to an anonymous person whom I do not know and who does not know me.
So for that reason I said no. At that point I realized we were going nowhere, no because there was no answer but because for this type of discussion or means of communication was inappropriate and human nature being what it is we or I usually turn to sarcasm. A very low form of wit. Reprove not a scorner lest he hate thee, rebuke a wise man and he will love thee. Proverbs 9 I think.
I dont regard this correspondence as a failure, more as a learning process about effective communication, what and where to say it.
Talk aboutgender roles in the church in relaxed surroundings, you will probably have a worth while discusion. Just because I disagree with you does not mean that I am right.
Bur you know Mike we do have to get this email communication right, because I believe that the net is going to become the major means of evangelisation in the future. Its good that we can have this web site to practise on, where if we get it wrong, damage will be very limited. I use d a different name on this occasion because I work in an area where the Gospel is illegal so when I take about a sensitive area I become name with held. One never knows who reads these letters.
May God Bless you T

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