Date Posted:03:26:43 01/14/05 Fri Author: Chris Subject: another important thing In reply to:
Mike K.
's message, "An academic answer" on 02:57:13 01/14/05 Fri
Another important thing is that there is no general rule. Children can be very different and need to be handled differently. For instance, my son is very, very sensitive. One hard word can be already too much for him and hurt his soul. While other children don't care at all even if they are beaten every day, as Mike said.
I have observed this difference in people's character in UBF. Some people are very sensitive and susceptible for spiritual abuse, while others seem to be completely immune. Usually the soul of people and children who care, who are serious, sympathetic, contemplative, dutiful, silent and introvert can be hurt more severly than the soul of those who are self-confident, superficial and extrovert.
We should not make the mistake to conclude, because we experienced authority abuse in UBF, that authority in itself is bad. Authority is a good value, if it is exerted at the right place and in the correct limits. Parents should be certainly authority figures for their own children. We experienced adult people treated as children in UBF, which was wrong, but children (your own) should surely be treated as children. Also, authority should always be complemented with real, unconditional love, care and compassion.
Most important is that we don't hurt the souls of our children which are very vulnerable and so precious.
