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Date Posted: 09:21:58 05/29/08 Thu
Author: Mark
Subject: Phimosis and fren breve mental issues

Hi Robin,

Well done on this site, there is not enough info in relation to this story.
I am experiencing real psycological problems in realtion to my problem.

I have never been able to retract my foreskin when erect, only when flacid
i went to a urologist two weeks ago and he recommended circumcision
due to frenenulm breve and tight foreskin.

I am 22 years old and have had a odd sexual history, with no long term sexual
partners. i had 2 relationships of 1year and 8 months respectively with girls
with just foreplay involved when i was 17-20. which were great periods in my life. since sex has got involved things have become complicated with new girls. i have had problems lack of feeling during sex and oral due to the skin covering my glans. without a condom sex is uncomfortable. with a condom i cant really feel much
cause now theres two layers covering my glans! and when i was with a few girls a really liked i came too
quick and i couldnt stop myself cause i just cant control whats going on down their you know.

to cap it off:
i was with a girl about about 5 months ago and i failed to get it up, i discussed it with friends and it was her
fault cause she was talking all during foreplay about how i better not leave now that she has given it to me and stuff and just putting me off you know. i slept in her bed alot trying and tried to have sex with her but she kept saying no, and then the night she says yes i get stage fright! she is a pretty crazy gal.
But it played on my mind terribly and i have now been able to get it up with a girl since. tried and failed a number of times. i simply cant stop thinking about it.

Now this is the hard part:
now ive felt i might be gay. i am not attracted to men i see anywhere, but in a fantasy
i like to think of being done you know where, by a guy.. i still look at women and find them attractive but feel i cant do anything about it you know, cause i dont feel like a man anymore. and so its kinda upsetting me even looking at them. and the fact that sex before was made so difficult due to my foreskin has only added to this.

i tried it with a guy but i wouldnt leave it happen, it felt alot more fun in my head and i bailed.
but i still have the fantasy you know..

Now for my theories:

Due to my lack of sensitivty, sex has never been enjoyable. and its hard to gain experience and confidence when you dont know your own body.

Due to my lack of sexual fulfillent, my sexual needs to be realeased in another way and thats why
ive developed this fantasy over time.. i presume to hit whatever button thats in my ass your know!

So now im in a state of confusion. and overall i think due in large parts to my foreskin problems.
A read a letter sent by someone who said: "what happens to a man when what it feels like to be a man
is taken away?" i take it as being what happens to a man when his sexual organ is not really exposed,
how can he really feel like a man in the most basic sence.

I mean do i really know what the feeling is the have sex?

My plans going forward are to have the operation done in 2-3 months time (i asked the doctor there were any other procedures i could go for but he said in my case, this was the only course of action). Im
gonna get some viagra to sort out this stage fright and experience what i have been robbed of.

Id love if i could get opinions on this. im feeling incredible depressed about it.

Yours Hopefully.

Mark.

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