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Date Posted: 02:37:34 10/08/01 Mon
Author: Kelly
Subject: you need to be honest with your children..
In reply to: Ron Kolek 's message, "Re: I am not "shocked"" on 00:20:33 10/08/01 Mon

Okay, I was no "Angel". I know more than the average "yuppy" in the area. My best friends did crack and heroine. Funny, I never could figure out why. I watched them and saw how they had the jitters, they sweated and couldn't sit still. Yah, that looked "fun" to me!

But, I am honest with my 9 year old. I was open to "booze" at 12. That is when it started in my neighborhood. Drugs didn't start until high school for me, but it was a different world. Dealers were "new" to the "business aspects" and sent their "runners" to areas a bit late. Now, they start earlier.

You need to know your kids, and know what they are doing, who they are with and what time they will be home. I ask, what seems to be to some parents, DUMB QUESTIONS. "DO you own a gun?" I will call 15 minutes after my oldest leaves, and make sure she is there. I ask her when she got home what she did, who she was with, etc. I don't let her go to any new home until I meet the parents. Okay, maybe I am over strict, but I grew up with more "street" knowledge than most. I know how a good kid can go bad. And, they don't know they are bad. They just want to fit in.

I have heard parents say, "Gee, I don't know what happened? First her grades dropped. Then she stopped talking to me. She stayed out all hours." etc. Funny, those are the first signs. But, no one asked any questions, talked to teachers, began looking around to see why the grades had dropped. They waited for an arrest, or sometimes even a death to figure there was "something wrong".

I am ranting, and I am sorry. But, it just drives me nuts when I talk to half of the parents that have no clue where their kids are. Or, especially while at Tae Kwon Do with my kids, I notice the parents that just drop their kids off and leave. You know those commercials, with kids saying how their parents invaded their space, and then say..THANKS?

It's the truth. Talk to your kids, know their friends, and notice the signs. Teachers and Police can NOT be parents. They only can do whatever they can to enforce the law. The rest is up to us.

My rant for the day...

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Re: you need to be honest with your children.. -- frb, 10:51:12 10/08/01 Mon
Re: you need to be honest with your children.. -- frb, 10:53:12 10/08/01 Mon
Re: you need to be honest with your children.. -- DUH, 14:29:30 10/08/01 Mon
- Math's Girl's Ode to Discipline! :) -- Math Girl, 19:43:47 10/18/01 Thu