If she left you then she wasn't "the love of your life." The person you are supposed to be with the rest of your life will choose you as much as you choose them. You have no alternative than to accept the reality that you are in now and try to heal and move on. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be open to whatever new possibilities life brings your way. But first, allow yourself to grieve the loss of your past relationship, and understand that it's ok to continue loving that person even if they are no longer a part of your life. Love doesn't need to possess. I hope you come to this understanding and find peace . . . -- MISS PUERTO RICO BEAUTY JOURNAL

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Date Posted: Tue, Jul 02 2024, 1:11:12 PDT
Author: The Simple Truth ~ El Objetivo . . .
Author Host/IP: syn-066-008-147-175.res.spectrum.com / 66.8.147.175
Subject: If she left you then she wasn't "the love of your life." The person you are supposed to be with the rest of your life will choose you as much as you choose them. You have no alternative than to accept the reality that you are in now and try to heal and move on. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be open to whatever new possibilities life brings your way. But first, allow yourself to grieve the loss of your past relationship, and understand that it's ok to continue loving that person even if they are no longer a part of your life. Love doesn't need to possess. I hope you come to this understanding and find peace . . .
In reply to: LaFayette 's message, "This brings back painful memories which I have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else" on Mon, Jul 01 2024, 18:00:02 PDT

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LaFayette: We have common friends, and Ollie felt the same way when she and Nick Jonas broke up. But this is no help for you now because every pain is personal. Comparing your personal experience with a beauty queen would be trivializing your experience. So let's talk about the human condition. The only thing I can let you know is that time heals. Time is the great healer. Take refuge in the certainty of a mother's pain when she loses a child. The pain a mother feels when she loses a child, with time, does become bearable. And thus, the loss of a great love (or even the love of your life) does become manageable and at times replaceable. For now, use your pain to do good, to see and observe love in the simplest manifestations of life and the beauty of nature in the song of a bird. (NT) -- LaRealiteETC, Tue, Jul 02 2024, 2:03:06 PDT (syn-173-093-143-034.res.spectrum.com/173.93.143.34)
- Also, there are several online resources available to help people cope with the pain of losing a loved one or going through a difficult breakup: Online therapy platforms: Services like BetterHelp offer professional counseling with licensed therapists who can provide support and guidance through the grieving process. Support groups and forums: Websites like Reddit have communities such as r/heartbreak where people share their experiences and offer support to others going through similar situations. Self-help resources: Many websites provide articles, guides, and tips on coping with lost love and moving forward. For example, Tiny Buddha offers personal stories and advice on healing from heartbreak. (NT) -- LaRealiteETC, Tue, Jul 02 2024, 2:05:44 PDT (syn-173-093-143-034.res.spectrum.com/173.93.143.34)
  - Mindfulness and acceptance exercises: Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) techniques can be practiced online, helping individuals accept their feelings and process their emotions more effectively. Nature immersion guides: Mental health charities like Mind offer online guides on using nature to help cope with emotional pain and loss. Reading materials: There are numerous books available in digital format that focus on recovering from heartbreak and building resilience, such as "How to Mend a Broken Heart: Lessons from the World of Neuroscience". Habit-building resources: Online resources that help in developing new routines and habits can be beneficial in the recovery process, such as those based on James Clear's "Atomic Habits". (NT) -- LaRealiteETC, Tue, Jul 02 2024, 2:07:14 PDT (syn-173-093-143-034.res.spectrum.com/173.93.143.34)

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