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Subject: Re: Advice please


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Alfred (for Confused)
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Date Posted: 18:49:31 01/05/13 Sat
In reply to: Confused 's message, "Re: Advice please" on 16:51:30 01/05/13 Sat
 Ms. C., I really liked your very well put response to whether there is or should be satisfaction in giving a spanking. I completely agree that some sort of regret and reluctance are appropriate.

Earlier I had suggested that maybe counselling would be useful and you replied that it was normal for tweens to do what your tween is doing. I think that you were right and maybe I was jumping the counselling gun a bit. Your love for your daughter and your empathy for her might justify your talking to a counsellor yourself. We know from a lot of tragedies lately that ignoring depression and other withdrawing behaviors in a true teen is very risky. You might be entitled to have conversations with teachers or counsellors at your daughter's middle school (or equivalent). I would encourage you to pursue this. As you might predict, I don't think a spanking for your daughter, however it might be pitched or justified, is in order.

Obviously you know where your daughter is on the becoming a woman clock but a lot of what you describe in her sounds hormonal to me. Admittedly I am male but others here are not and they may want to join this conversation. Best of luck, Confused, and be sure to share your empathy for her very openly and often. It is very moving that you feel for her. Hopefully our collective community wisdom will be useful to you.
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Re: Advice pleaseMaster Mike23:23:36 01/05/13 Sat
    Re: Advice pleaseGigi18:40:56 01/06/13 Sun

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