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Date Posted: 16:01:01 01/14/24 Sun
Author: Knut Holt
Subject: Family with 2 kids, family therapy involving nakedness of whole family

Family with 2 children, family therapy involving nakedness

This is about a family therapy process we had in
a therapist's office in 2021. I am 39-year-old man, my wife is 37, our children are m13 and f15. I took my family to see this therapist because we had become dysfunctional since lockdown ended. The therapist suggested that perhaps we had become much closer during that period, and subconsciously we wanted to get that back.

It all seemed fairly logical, she talked about breaking down barriers and such. Feeling more vulnerable and safe at home. I found it a little odd when she instructed us to all start sleeping totally naked. But her explanation makes sense. The next few sessions she had us undressing to our underwear for intimacy.

My son and daughter were extremely embarrassed, but I told them to obey the therapists wishes. The therapist also told us that we should be comfortable walking around the house that way, or in even less. By the 5th session, she instructed us to take all of our clothes off and look at each other's bodies.

She had us describe in great detail how each other's body parts looked. Length, size, shape, body hair, etc. She said family should not have any secrets about their bodies. Kids come from the parents' bodies, she said, so we are all connected. And she instructed us to spend all of our time at home nude with each other from now on. Again, the kids felt deeply ashamed about this, but I think it was also exciting for them based on the signs of arousal i witnessed.

I would have stopped going to this therapist, accepted that techniques worked. We became much closer as a family, stopped fighting, no more worries about privacy. We went to a few more sessions, where she seemed pleased that everything had worked out so well, and ask if there was any area of our lives left that we weren't sharing.

My wife laughed and said 'just sex of course' and then the therapist really surprised me. She said that our natural sexuality should not be hidden from each other either, that the kids should be allowed to watch us make love, and that they should try masturbating when family is watching them. I would not have agreed to this if the previous therapy had not worked so well. This was a very strange thing we went through, but our family came up much happier. We now have no secrets with each other whatsoever and we enjoy going on frequent family outings to movies, the zoo, whatever.

COMMENTS

Much of what the therapist suggested seemed to be right for the family, but it seems to be a too far demand that they should not have any secret for each other, hatspever.

There is another aspect with this therapy. Many societies have established a steadily wider definition of sexual abuse. Some of her suggestions may have tresspassed the border of sexual abuse as that particular society defins it, making both herself and the parents abusers according to current definitions.

When clients of therapists encounter such demands, they must always concider what is legal of not in the society, and how their society might react.

Her asking to see the whole family naked at the office surely had a diagnostic purpose, because she would see the bodily reations of the family members.

But she possibly also wanted to see the family naked for own gratification.

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