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Date Posted: 09:43:47 09/28/18 Fri
Author: ex-dancer
Subject: If it does stay up I would like to say to all parents on here...
In reply to: Lessons learned. 's message, "I think this discussion has been useful and relevant to our day. I hope it stays up to remind people that you need to be involved in your child's experience st the studio. Abuse should never be tolerated." on 09:06:26 09/28/18 Fri

Question your children. Ask them about how their TC runs the class. Is there a lot of yelling? Does TC ever single them or other children out in negative ways? Does TC ever touch children and how does TC touch them? (ex: TC would dig nails in my arm while correcting me on a step, to other children it looked like TC was helping me when TC was hurting me) Does any behaviour exhibited by TC make them uncomfortable in any way?

Watch for signs. Anxiety before a class, issues with other children (could stem from TC's treatment of child/bad example), asking to skip a class for no real reason or feigning illness before a class, asking to switch schools but not giving a clear reason why, general complaints about not liking TC with unclear reasons given, child starts practising less or shows less enthusiam for dance when they expressed great love for it before.

Children trust in authority figures and normalise their behaviour. Adults trust in authority figures too and if you are not inside the class with TC and only have positive social experiences with TC you may not think they could be capable of abuse. My mother knew I had anxiety before class and I often told her I didn't like my TC. She sided with TC and thought it was an issue of me not working hard enough and encouraged me to work harder. But my hard work and achievements at major competitions didn't stop the abuse. I also hid things from my mother because I loved dancing so much. I feared losing it if she knew how bad TC was.

This does happen and still happens. We know from scandals in all sorts of other organisations involving children and money that it happens and is covered up. CLRG has been around 91 years and only one TC has been removed on abuse allegations. Statistically, this is off. There are more victims and perpetrators out there. We know better. Time to do better.

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Powerful words. Thank you for having the courage to post this. I hope that CLRG listens and at least returns your complaint with interest, dignity and due process. (NT) -- --, 11:08:59 09/28/18 Fri