Date Posted:12:20:46 01/20/25 Mon Author: Zia Subject: Re: Singling out one child to set an example In reply to:
Laura
's message, "Re: Singling out one child to set an example" on 20:53:32 01/19/25 Sun
>>>>>>Do you ever make a big problem about smallish
>>>>>>misbehavior of one of your children to set an
>>>>example?
>>>>>>
>>>>>>And if so, do you do this only with the oldest, to
>>>>>>which younger siblings look up to?
>>>>>>Do you do this with the naughthiest child?
>>>>>>Or no "favorites"?
>>>>>
>>>>>Well we certainly believe that each child has
>>>>>different needs and requires parenting that works
>>for
>>>>>them. We have twin boys, and we keep one in diapers
>>>>>24/7 and the other naked 24/7. So singling out one
>>>>>child happens often, although we try to be fair.
>>>Tyler
>>>>>(in diapers) is less mature, so if the boys get in
>a
>>>>>fight, we are stricter on Justin (naked) since he
>>>>>should know better. For us though it's not about
>>>>>setting an example or picking a favorite, it's
>about
>>>>>what works best for each child individually.
>>>>
>>>>Does Justin ever make fun of Tyler for still wearing
>>>>diapers or having a poopy diaper?
>>>
>>>Not often, we don't tolerate that type of behavior.
>>
>>When it does happen what does he usually say about the
>>diapers or him having a full one?
>
>As mentioned, it doesn't happen often. When it does
>happen usually Justin says something like "I should
>get to pick the movie we watch because I'm not a baby
>like you" (at least that's what Tyler tells me, often
>I'm not in earshot when they start fighting). One time
>Justin said something like "at least I can poop and
>pee in the toilet like a normal kid", which was very
>upsetting for Tyler (he is incontinent so has no
>control over when he pees or poops himself).
That’s actually pretty cute. I think a reminder that he’s just a stinky baby could be good for a boy his age.
