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Date Posted: 13:05:27 09/21/24 Sat
Author: Kendra
Subject: Our household

Since Jen has shared her way of doing things I thought I would share how my husband and I do things. Our kids are 9M and 7F. We are quite strict with them but not unreasonable. Our goal is to raise them as good people who are not drawn in by the terrible things in society these days such as phones and social media. We try to leave any punishment as a last resort but sometimes of course it is necessary.

They must be polite and respectful to each other and all adults at all times. Any backtalk or disobedience results in an immediate spanking. This does not happen often as they have learned well.

They must ask permission to use the toilet. We never deny them this basic human need of course, but it is for reasons of respect. When they use the toilet at home one of us is usually present to make sure there are no issues and that they are cleaning themselves properly afterwards.

I change their clothes including underwear every day after school. I inspect their underwear and genitals and if there is any speck of dirt or smell they will receive a lecture and wear Goodnights for the rest of the day. This is so they learn to practice proper hygiene. This unfortunately happens more often than I would like but we are working on it.

Any homework must be done immediately after they are in fresh clothing. This is so they learn to get things done early and out of the way. After this, they are allowed to read books or play educational games (not video games) that we select for them, appropriate for their ages.

Dinner is always at 5:30 pm sharp, and if they are late to the table they get to eat cereal instead of the delicious meal I have prepared. I put a lot of effort into cooking for my family and if they want to enjoy it they will be there on time. I do not deny them food, as I don't believe in that but they will eat something plain and boring if they cannot have the courtesy to arrive to the table on time.

After dinner, they help clear the table. As they get older, I will expect more from them in cleaning up but for now I think that is fine and it is helpful to us. We then allow them to watch one half hour TV show of our choosing. Typically educational and engaging cartoons and not mindless trash.

Around 7 pm its time for their bath. They bathe together to save time and water. I inspect their underwear again and if there is any dirt or smell they will receive a light spanking. After the bath, they are both put in Goodnights and pajamas and we have a half hour of family time before bed. This may be all of us playing a board game together or watching another show together. They go to bed no later than 8 pm. We unfortunately can only rent a 2-bedroom house at the moment so they have to share a room, with separate beds.

In the morning my husband and I get up at 5 am. We get the kids up by 5:30 and give them another bath. There is no punishment if their Goodnights are wet or dirty but we want them clean for school. We dress them and have breakfast and send them on their way.

We do occasionally allow them to play with or sleepover at friends houses but only after we have thoroughly vetted the parents and have firmly told them our rules. In cases of sleepovers we bathe them and put their Goodnights on before they go and we make the other parents aware of this.

The kids are mostly good but when they are not the punishment is mostly spanking, but any bad behavior involving hygiene or immature behavior results in the child being put in a Goodnight for the rest of the day. Sometimes they are sent to their room but it depends on what they have done.

We also use Goodnights whenever we take them out for long periods of time such as shopping or a long drive. This is really for practical reasons and not meant as a punishment.

I realize our way may not seem as strict as some, but it has worked for us and our kids are generally very good kids. We do not intend to give them any access to the internet or phones or tablets until they are 16 and have proven that they can be responsible. Even then it will be strictly monitored. Dating may be allowed on a limited basis when they reach 16 if we feel they are mature enough. And of course any behavior involving alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, or sex will be very strictly and extremely punished as those things are completely off limits.

I'm so sick of reading about the terrible things that happen to children when it comes to the internet and social media and I'm determined to not let our kids fall prey to that. I'm sick of hearing about kids bullying other kids and am determined to make sure our kids are always respectful and are never bullies. If they are ever bullied, I will have words with the other parents and the school and will involve the police if necessary.

At the end of the day I just want our kids to grow up being good and respectful people who are not tainted by the disgusting nature of modern society.

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