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Date Posted: 21:53:15 05/23/25 Fri
Author: Aliva
Subject: Re: A Long Drive and Summer Plans Ahead
In reply to: Jen 's message, "Re: A Long Drive and Summer Plans Ahead" on 12:41:15 05/23/25 Fri

Hi Jen, thanks so much for reaching out and for being so thoughtful it really means a lot!

In our home, we try to keep things Christ-centered and peaceful. We believe children thrive when there’s clear structure, loving discipline, and consistent values, so we’ve set a few basic household rules.

Respect and kindness come first. We teach our kids to speak with love, use gentle hands, and treat others the way they’d want to be treated.

First-time obedience is important. We encourage children to listen and respond the first time they’re spoken to, with a respectful attitude. It’s something we work on daily, with lots of grace and consistency.

We value modesty and wholesome behavior. We’re careful with language, clothing, and screen time. You may hear worship music playing or see scripture verses around the house God’s Word is a big part of our day-to-day life.

Quiet time is respected. Naps and evening wind-downs are protected time. We keep things calm and screen-free during those hours to help everyone rest and reset.

We use preventive discipline with both Noah and Charleen. That means we set clear expectations ahead of time, talk through situations before they happen, and address attitudes early so things don’t spiral. We also use warm-ups, which are quick, calm reminders or corrections to help reset their hearts and focus before disobedience takes root. It’s a way to guide them gently but firmly in the right direction.

In addition, we have charts that help keep track of behavior, routines, and responsibilities. The visual reminders help them stay accountable and also make it easier to praise positive choices and progress.

We do believe in correction when it’s truly necessary. We use timeouts, redirection, and, when needed, we do have a rubber dough scraper spatula that’s used sparingly for firm but loving discipline. It’s never used in anger only in clear, thought-through situations when defiance or danger needs to be addressed. Everything we do is rooted in love and our desire to raise children who understand boundaries and the heart behind them.

As for diapers, we use Huggies most of the time, though we also use a no-name brand that works well for us too. We’re flexible with brands as long as they’re gentle and do the job.

We’re not perfect, but we do our best to raise our children in a way that honors God, builds character, and prepares them to walk in truth and love. Thanks again for checking in it really means a lot. I’m always happy to talk more if you ever have questions.

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Re: A Long Drive and Summer Plans Ahead -- Kim, 02:19:07 05/26/25 Mon