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Date Posted: 23:49:45 06/24/05 Fri
Author: Scully99
Subject: Old question, new answer...

I had recently been scanning through some of the forums and came across someone who had asked a questions which stemmed along the lines of the big difference between Mulder and Scully's relationship versus Doggett and Reyes'. Unfortunately, I can't remember where I saw it and being that I am the mother of a 9 month old, I have precious little time to peruse the web, much less engage in discussions... however, my husband has my son right now, giving me the time to post this, most likely, long and drawn out rambling of my brain. Eh, sorry about that. Anyway, during this recent discussion of MSR vs. DRR, someone brought up the question as to WHY Mulder and Scully waited so long to act on their feelings. That question has been niggling at me for at least a week or two now, which means one of two things: A. Either I'm a total "X-Files" fanatic with a lot of "inwardly" time on my hands, or B. I'm a total weirdo with a lot of "inwardly" time on my hands. (By inwardly, I mean inside my strange, little brain- having a baby boy gives me very few moments to actually "do" anything, except change diapers and the like.)

Anyway, here is MY take on this question...

First off, I believe Mulder and Scully were SCARED. Not of one thing, but many. From episodes throughout the series we come to find out that they have both been in relationships that have ended badly. That experience right there could certainly sour a person to anything of the romantic sort and cause them to consider any move towards beginning a new love relationship VERY CAREFULLY.

Plus, they worked together, and although I actually have no real idea as to whether dating a co-worker (let alone partner) in the FBI is forbidden or not, I'm sure it's not highly encouraged. Romantic entanglements in the workplace can be a tricky, complicated thing at best, a distracting disaster at worst. And they had both been through relationships that involved a co-worker/superior before, and all had ended badly.

Then there's the whole "working relationship/friendship" thing to consider. I'm sure there have been many a person reading this that have gotten a crush or fallen for a friend or co-worker. Sometimes, the person represents both. Unfortunately, for all of your ardor, these romantic feelings are often one-sided, or you assume them to be. I myself have been in this position before, always knowing that my feelings were one-sided. The idea of bringing up your romantic intentions is, often times, too scary to do. What if that person laughs his/her head off at you, embarrassing you? What if he/she gets weird on you and it changes the whole aspect of your relationship? There's just too much to lose.

Of course, you can't discount the very real physical threat of the government conspirators learning of their emotional attachment and using it against them in the worst possible ways. I think that the CSM probably had an inkling of their feelings for each other- possibly long before they had realized it themselves- because he DID use one to control the other on several occasions, particularly when Scully was abducted in season 2 by Duane Barry and given to the "secret government" for horrible testing.

I also don't think either of them were ready for what we Shippers think of as the love of their lives. Scully herself admitted in season 5, when trying to adopt Emily, that she had always been emotionally closed off to others until she went through her cancer. Mulder was so obsessed with finding his sister Samantha, he felt he had no time for anything else. In the pilot he told Scully that finding out the truth about his sister was the "only thing that mattered" to him. It would take them awhile to get to that crossroads in their life at the same time, I guess.

As for my opinion on little details that some of my friends and I often wondered about...

Do I think that Mulder and Scully are soul mates? Yes, according to "The Field Where I Died" Scully was one of Mulder's soul mates. Maybe not romantically, but this seemed to be the first lifetime they had spent together (of the past lives Mulder mentioned while under hypnosis) where they were man to woman and NOT related to each other.

Do I think it was love at first sight? Hmm, I don't know for sure, but I definitely think they had an instant appreciation for each other. Whether it was love or a very strong like that quickly turned in to love, I'm not sure. But by watching their interactions, even from the first episode, they held repsect for each other's abilities, a compatibility between them and a certain trust. Yes, Mulder knew Scully was sent to spy on him, but he learned quick enough that she had integrity. She trusted him enough to rush into his hotel room and bare all, so to speak. He trusted her enough to share his story- on a personal level- about the disappearance of his sister.

Why didn't they express their love verbally? (Well, except for Mulder's drugged up season 6 confession.)

That I blame on Chris Carter mostly. He always acted like the biggest NOROMO of all, but it was probably his decision alone to have M & S not only fall in love, but have a child together near the end of the series. I read somewhere that he hates "mushy" stuff. (Well, I don't know if he's married, but if he acts that way at home, I'd hate to be Mrs. Carter!) The truth is, the whole world revolves around love. There are many different kinds of course, but every decision we make usually involves some sort of reasoning behind it having to do with love. Wars have been fought over love. Sometimes its love of God. Sometimes it's love of another, or oneself. Whatever the kind, it's like the Mary Tyler Moore theme song, "Love is all around..." Even Carter had to admit this, once saying in an interview I read that Mulder & Scully were more from something akin to the old time literary works of love. Like a knight who fell for a maiden, and they might woo each other, or write each other long, gooey poems, but, for whatever reason, they were not allowed to marry. Mulder and Scully's "reason" it seems was Carter himself. In the end, the gooey, mushy love stuff won out, though. I mean, the best part of the series closer "The Truth" was that amazing smooch in the jail cell! And in front of Skinner to boot! How hot was that?

Oh well, sorry I've rambled so much and written another darn novel! Just had to get my feelings out to someone who might actually care. Even now, I know I've forgotten a point or two, but forgive me. I'm an exhausted mom with a teething baby.

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Re: Old question, new answer... -- Islandgirl, 07:41:18 06/25/05 Sat
- Ditto! -- CW, 18:09:39 06/27/05 Mon