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Date Posted: 13:03:57 07/21/03 Mon
Author: Islandgirl
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Re: telling/showing
In reply to: SMH 's message, "telling/showing" on 10:55:12 07/21/03 Mon

I think what CC was trying to do with the MSR was turn the typical male/female relationship dynamics around. Mulder was the dreamy-eyed believer in "hunches" and "feelings" while Scully was the pragmatic scientist.
This role reversal carried over to their relationship with each other, too. In a typical marriage the wife will usually find herself saying, at some point, "You never tell me 'I love you' or compliment me any more" and the husband will respond with "How can you not know I love you? Look at all the things I do for you -- listen to you when you want to talk, take care of you when you're sick, go with you to visit your parents and lots of other stuff -- why do I have to *talk* about my feelings for you?"
In the MSR, it was reversed. Mulder had no problem articulating his own feelings and he had a longing for Scully to do likewise. Scully, on the other hand, didn't seem to think it was necessary for her to actually *say* anything, as long as she was showing, by her actions, that she loved Mulder.
Whether in real life or the MSR, neither partner is really "wrong" it's just a matter of looking at things from different POVS. . actions speaking louder than words versus a desire to actually *hear* the words "I love you".

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Re: telling/showing -- CW, 21:47:51 10/01/03 Wed