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sonia (just carry on it will get better)
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Date Posted: 02:30:53 07/01/12 Sun
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cassie wamsley
's message, "lost and so hurt and very worried mother on a 7 year old" on 10:50:46 02/16/12 Thu
dear Cassie
I can really sympathise with you, in the USA,my son was diagnosed at the age of 5 with learning and speech difficulties, in 2002 we moved to the UK and then a year later to france.
my story is long, but to the point, we have had to put up with teachers bulling my son,, they then tried to hide their failings saying they didnt have the resources to help children with dyslexia, French being his second language being the problem, we were told by the education psychologist that he should forget verbal language and learn sign language. In the end they tried to trick us into placing him into a institution for children with diffulcuties which would help him, turned out it was reformatory for children labeled difficult, the institution had a record of child abuse and violence. The school also tried to block our aplication to send him to a private school which he now is. The situation is better but still not ideal,
HOWEVER TO GIVE YOU HOPE. At the age of 12, he still was trying to read books for 4-5 year olds, not getting anywhere, we then changed to Harry Potter, a book he identified with, started with a paragraph a day for approxiamtly 15min a day. We read a few pages for him to keep up the interest, but always went back to where he left off for him to continue reading After two months he was reading a few pages at a time, he has read the first book of Harry Potter in French and English, not bad for a child who never spoke his own language until the age of 5 and took 4 years to learn French. He is now 15 years old, he still doesnt like reading chapter books, but will read a newspaper, comics and occasionally magazine articles.
My advice, after been to hell and back, screaming shouting, suicidal thoughts, (bad enough to probably get me committed) and staying up all night crying and scanning the internet for help,is to take a step back, listen to any advice offered and ONLY USE WHAT SUITS YOUR FAMILY SITUATION. Dont compare your son to other children, dont let the school intimidate your family. Forget about bloody Grades, tests etc. Find something your child enjoys and work around that, it might be art, maths, technology, sport, cooking and incorporate reading into that. At the end of the day, your son is your son, if he is made to feel good about himself, he will find something in this world that suits his personality and skills.
My son now 15, what can I say, still dyslexic but not really a problem, good at Maths and the sciences, helps around the home, speaks two languages well, reads two languages good enough to get on and improve if he wants to, lovely caring personality, lazy at school, could do better, loves playing computer games, hanging with friends - really is he any different to his naturally accademic brother who just scrapes by at school due to not putting the effort in.
suggest you may look into: vision therapy - is his eye muscles working properly - my sons was that of a 8month old at the age of 7.
Dore Programe - is it available where you live or program similar- this helped my son.
A opportunity to let it all out, sometimes every one throwing a fit, letting the steam escape and starting over again works.
you will also find that around the age of 12-13 he will catch up in the subjects he is interested in. This is the findings a quite a few people I have spoken to.
Good luck, as they say, KEEP CALM, CARRY ON.
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