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Date Posted: 20:07:04 10/21/03 Tue
Author: Tornadotron
Author Host/IP: h68-145-98-242.cg.shawcable.net / 68.145.98.242
Subject: Lets try that again!
In reply to: Tòrnadòtròn 's message, "You are not a man worthy to follow Paul." on 21:41:29 10/18/03 Sat

You may take what I say to be an insult but I prefer to be blunt with people and that even includes myself because I am speaking as it is and what I see. And yeah, people won’t like it but I want to be myself. I like it when people can be blunt with me and in fact, I become disappointed when someone isn’t.

I remember one time in my psychology class, I had to give a lecture in front of the class and we all where in groups, and each group had 3 or 4 people and each individual member had to go up and give a lecture on the research he or she had particularly done. I think each individual had to lecture for about 10 minutes minimum.

Anyway, after I gave my lecture, I asked a few of my group members how I had done. They all told me that I did great. I then asked them to tell me what I could have improved upon and what my weak areas where and I wanted them to give it to me and not hold back. They continued on to say that they had no criticism of what I had done and that my lecture was really good.

Although it was flattering, I was sort of disappointed because I wanted criticism towards myself. Although I didn’t have to ask them what I could have improved upon, after all, if we look at ourselves carefully, we can all see where we can improve upon, I still wanted to know what they thought I could in case I might have missed something. I can’t give a lecture like David Icke or Bill Clinton so in the ‘lecture world’ I have a ton of things I could have improved upon.

I was disappointed that I didn’t get criticized. But that is me, I’d rather someone tell me that my artwork for example (no, I am not an artist) sucks instead of them telling me that it’s good. I find my own weak areas like that. Does it help me to improve myself if someone bullshits me so they don’t hurt me precious and fragile feelings?

Yesterday I was watching starwars (The Phantom Menace) on my DVD Player (the only movies I own for my DVD is starswars 1 and) and something really struck me which one of the jedi said because it was so true.

He said that we get what we focus on.

To me, that is what I call truth, there is so much wisdom to that as well. It even tells me why I am not where I want to be in my own life right now.

In life, we get what we focus on and I see this time and time again. Why does one person make it big while another doesn’t? This greatly interests me and I have taken the time to observe and learn.

At work, I remember when the Head-manager would talk. He would talk with great power, he had great belief in what he was doing and what really set him apart -- he had incredible belief in himself and what he could do. That was the key. I remember even when he talked, he talked with great vision, as if he was almost projecting his vision on others.

This is what I saw in the man because I took the time to carefully observe him without judgment. Now, not everyone will agree with that because they say that the reason he’s the top-dog at the company is because he happened to marry the daughter of the company that owns us and they sent him to school to Devry and paid for everything for him to get his business degree and then they made him top-dog. Before that, he drove a forklift and ran a molder.

They say at work that it was luck and that he got lucky. I don’t see it that way because I saw what he believed and he believed in himself, he spoke with vision. Is that a coincidence that such a man becomes wealthy and a big-shot owner of a company? I’d like to see just anyone go and do his job then.

Seeing the focus he had, it’s not something they taught him in school, it is something he had within himself. That is the very focus he used to get to the top and he created for himself the opportunities to get there.

Do you know what he is doing now? He’s now onto bigger things and no longer with us. He’s now in the United States working on the business there and making it grow and opening up companies. Think he could do any of that if he lacked belief in himself and the vision he has of himself?

It sometimes is really amazing what you can learn and see inside a person when you really stop and take the time to look without judgment.

Now, in my own life, I too am stuck in a dead-beat job even though others don’t think so because I have an apartment with a very nice view and I drive a new car. (it’s a 2002) I got quite a bit of money laying around too and people look at me and don’t see that my job is dead-beat but I hate my job and can’t stand it. I have workers and I am in charge of production, quality, maintenance along with a list of other stuff. This is not my dream. People look at my job and what I have in life and think it’s great, I look at it and see that it’s BS.

Do you know what I told my worker about two weeks ago when we were talking?

I told him that the reason that he and I are stuck at that place (our work) is because we don’t believe in ourselves and we don’t believe in our dreams. We place limits on things and ourselves and this is the reality we have created.

That is what I still do and I am learning to get away from that. Funny story Paul, I remember one time about 3 years ago or so, someone asked me if I though 20 bucks (or 25 bucks or something like that) per hour was a lot of money. Back then, I was only 21 and I was making 10 bucks per hour and I said yes! They said that I must have low standards. Although at the time I didn’t get it and what they were saying to me, today at 24 years of age, I truly do and see that they were right. It was a low standard to think that is a lot of money.

I look at work and even look at myself and see why people don’t get anywhere. The people at work have given-up and accepted that thei way their lives are, is way it’s always going to be, they will always live from paycheck to paycheck and have to work for someone. This is what they focus on and that is the reality they have created for themselves.

I remember one guy bitching about how he hopes something better will come his way in life. He’s going to be waiting a long time for something better to come along, unless he changes his thinking, and takes action in his life.

Now, someone may ask then, why is it that someone will try so hard and then fail? This is a question that has greatly interested me as well. Some people bust their backs and don’t get anywhere and why?

Because some people, although they are focused on their goals, they also focus on the failure. They worry so much about failing that they focus on that. Some people focus on doubts and they bring that upon themselves. Others focus on the fear of failing and in the end, bring that upon themselves and then they can’t figure out why they didn’t make it and then they feel pity for themselves. I even look at the people at work who hate work to death and with their thoughts, they don’t realize that they are focusing themselves on how much they hate something and that is what they attract with their focus.

I know, because we’ve all been there and that includes me. Last month, I read an interesting science article where they discovered that what you think of yourself, affects your health and how you process and digest food! Just what you think of yourself, believe yourself to be effects your body, how it works and how it process foods! With our thoughts, we create our own reality and our thoughts have an effect on things. And that is just the start.

Paul, you may think I am insulting you but that is where I am in my life. All of us have so much potential, and that even includes you. Window washing or not, if I was stuck as a window washer, I’d look out into the world and tell myself that I am not going to settle for this. I wouldn’t focus on how much my life sucks, how much I hate the job, but pure focus on getting out of that and then taking the action and steps to make it happen.

If anyone today told me to be a window-washer I’d tell them to go shove it. Yet, that even brings me back to another question. If everyone else had the chance to be in your shoes in the exact same situation, what would separate the ones that make it from window-washer to successful businessman?

It’s the level of belief one has in himself.

This is why I find this issue so interesting to me, not simply because it has already become reality to me, but anyone who "knows the truth", (sorry, we all have part of the puzzle but not the puzzle ourselves) truly has the right belief in himself to manifest change and success in their lives. If one person has a strong belief in himself while another who screams about the truth doesn’t, what do you think that tells me?

I mean, I look at atheism and atheism to me, is a religion Paul. The belief that there is no God is a religion because they people go out into the world and say that this is the truth, they write books about it, have boards about it and seek to convert people into their group of truth. That to me is a religion and atheism is a religion.

I am using atheism as an example because atheists are famous for telling everyone else how they have the truth and they go on and on and on without end, telling everyone how good atheism is, how smart atheism is, how great atheism is and how atheism is the truth!

If atheism is the truth as they claim, then atheism would instill in each individual, a strong belief in themselves and their own dreams.

But how often do you see that?

Over the summer, I had an atheist who couldn’t even find a job and was bitching about it on a board saying how hard it is to get a good job! WELL DUH! If you have such a lack of belief in yourself, finding a good job will always be hard but is that it?

Is the whole point of ones existence to slave for someone else?

If atheism is the truth, then why isn’t it instilling a belief in the person?

That’s a question I ask myself to anyone who screams about the truth.

Is that truth doing what it should or it is falling on the mark?

I still don’t have that level of belief in myself and my dreams, that might be why I don’t go around telling people to follow me because I have the truth.

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