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christina.
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Date Posted: 12:27:09 08/23/01 Thu
In reply to:
Dor
's message, "resolution" on 13:42:44 08/22/01 Wed
here's a thought:
i think that it was extremely rude and bitchy that it seemed that half of the group made a hidden decision together that their exclusivity was more important than what would get work done the fastest. i had told three out of the five people there that day that i was bringing two people with me to help. amanda was really excited about helping, she did really well with the fliers-better than most of me, i know that. she wasn't afraid to approach anyone and just talk to them and give them a flier. so, i thought she'd be a good help for the bags. sara, as you all know, is staying with me, and knew she'd be helping with whatever i did.
i wasn't even informed about the meeting until a few hours before, and i felt like that was to keep me from going. like, oh, you have plans? that's too bad. oh well.
i TOLD you, dor that i was bringing two people and you asked who, and i told you, and you mentioned NO qualms about that. you aid "okay, great." i told valerie i was bringing two people, and she said, "we need all the help we can get!" i asked jason, and he said he had no problem with it because he thought more help=good, and audrey had called me while iw as there and was questioning how many people were there, but didn't make any mention as to why. then, i get a call saying, "um, okay..we're gonna eat, and then can you take your sister home? we want it to be us..and i guess sara." how in the fuck do you think that makes others feel, when they've come of their own free will and have offered to help and it's like.."um, we only want your help when we request it and can tell you exactly what we want, we don't want it now so go away."
like nick, for instance. he was closer to val's house than audrey or erin were, and he gets a call.."it'll be fun, dinner, dinner, then you can leave. go home." that's SO unbelievably rude, it's disgusting to me. it's not even that you were offending me, the offensiveness to our mutual friend and to my guests is offensive to me. and then erin smiling at amanda when she walked in to use the bathroom, just the feeling of that is so fake it makes me want to kick walls.
you all do know that you've pushed nick to the point where he doesn't even want to help at the event, right? and sara is to the point of wanting to buy a ticket so she doesn't have to help because she feels awkward now. and you know there will be five dollar tickets, and i think her help during the event is worth more than the five dollar ticket we would sell her.
maybe you didn't hide your decision from valerie, but i had no idea about it. jason seemed to have no idea about it. i know nick had no idea that his help wasn't wanted. i could have been ifnormed about it any time of that day. not that i was even informed about the bag stuffing. fine, if you want to be exclusive, then let's see how well we do exclusively attending our own party, or exclusively trying to serve the food, or exclusively trying to be the performers. THEN, let's see how far we get, how much money we raise, or what we've accomplished. that should be enjoyable. i don't remember my last sentence, heh. but i was not about to abandon the people i was already with. if you want to enjoy working by yourself, fine. be sure to tell me not to get involved, and ill be sure to tell you that i won't be there.
also, i read this board and kept up with the posts while i was gone, only to find out that nothing was really posted vs. the things that were going on. oh, i'm in charge of food? thanks for fucking telling me. i wasnt told i was going to pick up the cake. its closest to me, and i dont mind being in charge of overseeing that, but i wasnt even told. and val was like, "oh, no one told me?" no, no one told me. thanks for really keeping the communication lines open. it really prepares and gets me excited to be involved.
-christina.
>hey. i wanted to make a request.
>
>i know that one of the hardest things about this
>benefit has been communication and working together
>and all that and sometimes that's caused conflicts.
>
>i want to request that all of us please, please do
>what it takes to not have any conflict this friday.
>we've worked really hard and done a good job and are
>actually fucking putting on a good party and it would
>be terrible to have any of us uncomfortable or upset
>the day of. that's the day for us to celebrate that
>all of our efforts have paid off, and to bask in the
>knowledge that everyone's having a good time. we need
>to have a good time, too.
>
>let's please, please, please TALK very soon, all of
>us, if that's what we need to do to resolve any
>outstanding issues. i think it's really, really
>important that we all be content the day of. well
>content and really stressed out and nervous, but not
>worried about any drama with our friends and co-hosts.
>
>thoughts?
>
>Dor
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