| Subject: well, here are my words on it, Kalie, |
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Date Posted: 18:59:05 06/17/02 Mon
In reply to:
.Cassie.
's message, "okies" on 23:48:15 06/12/02 Wed
well, I'll probably say what everyone else has been saying so far, but I figure that there's gotta be something unique in here SOMEWHERE!! hehe.... er, okay, I'll get a little more serious.
Parents First of all, I defninitely think it would be a good idea to tell your parents. Well, depending on how they might react of course. But, from what I can figure, from what I know of your family from chatting and such, your moms would seem like the type who would accept this situation. In some ways even, they have a right to know, and they might be able to help you make a decision that will eventually turn out to be the right one. They love you, you are their daughter, Kalie, and they care about you. The fact that you are now pregnant should be no reason for them to toss you away. They may not like the idea that you are pregnant, but as parents, it is their responsibility, your right, to have them at least respect the situation and treat it with as much care as they can. Eventually though, I would say that you should tell them, because as adults, they can help you. I trust you'll make the decision, the right decision, no matter what.
Adoption/Abortion/Keep the baby Well, Kalie, you have a difficult choice here. There are pros and cons to every decision. Adoption could leave you wondering what your child will grow up to be like, and might make them want to find you, which could or could not cause problems. Abortion is an always controversial issue, is dangerous I'm guessing, and in some ways isn't right for the child. Keeping the baby could allow you to raise it on your own with your own values and beliefs, but of course it will force you to put your life on hold. You need to look at it from every angle, decide why each choice is a good one to make, decide why each choice is a terrible one to make. Consider every possibility.
See a doctor!... if you haven't already. Like someone already said, pregnancy tests over the counter aren't always 100% accurate. Not only that, but a doctor could even be a great person to talk to. The information you give them is confidential if I'm not mistaken, and they can give you a medical, experienced point of view on the subject.
Tell the father whoever it is, he has a right to know, and his stance on the subject could possibly aid you in your decision. If you see that he is totally unwilling to support you and the baby, that might give you a step in one direction... if he is totally willing to support you, then that will lead you another way. Either way, he must know.
Lastly Kalie, I would have to say the most important thing to do would be to follow your heart and your mind. Deep down inside, you will know the right choice to make, whether it be to tell your parents about it, to keep the baby, to give it up for adoption, or even have an abortion. All of the choices above are right ones, and they are wrong ones. It just differs depending on your point of view. No matter what, Kalie, we are all here to help you, and will be behind your decision 100%, because obviously it is what you think is best. Since there are pros and cons to every decision, it will be the best choice in at least one way.
Things will work themselves out, Kalie, and you'll have to be there to make sure that they do. Just make sure that you know positively and completely that it's what you want to do. If you decide to give the baby up for adoption, make sure you won't change your mind.... if you decide on abortion, make sure that it's in your best interest, and the baby's.... if you decide to keep the child, think about what type of life will be ahead of you, and make sure that you're okay with it.
If you ever need to talk, Kalie, if you ever need someone to squeeze your hand and tell you not to give up, just e-mail me at playingdestiny@hotmail.com
We're all here for you Kalie, and we understand the difficult and impromptu decisions that are ahead. You'll be okay.
...~Julia~...
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