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please can you advise me

Author:
Mhaire

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Date Posted: 08:46:17 11/17/01 Sat

My father physically and mentally abused me i watched him beat my mum up while he called me my sister and my mum cows sluts whores and everything even though we werent he always called us we stupid we where thick and we wouldnt get anywhere in life so in school i used too fail everything cause i believed everything he had said.After that my brother burnt down our house while we where all sleeping i was only about 7 at the time.It was so scarey.I havent had many boyfriends for the simple fact that im so scared incase they treat me the same way.The boyfriends i have had have left me for no reason or been taking drugs the guy who is interested in me just now is married i could never date him though cause its not right.The main problem i have is that i cant have sex with a guy im so scared i keep thinking there going too rape me or beat me up and i dont know how too deal with this can you please please help me.Everytime i do get a boyfriend and he maybe wants sex i totally back away and im also shy about my body i think its cause i was told i was always ugly.Thank you very much

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Re: please can you advise me

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sue
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Date Posted: 11:04:49 11/17/01 Sat

Ok first thing you have to deal with is the way your father treated you, what he did was very wrong and never blame yourself for that from talking with you today I know you are non of the things you say above and non of what your father called you. you are a very special person who has alot to offer someone, some day the right person will come along and you wont feel as you do, what you feel is only to be expected have a boyfriend but base the relationship on friendship only untill a trust forms tell him how you feel in time and if he is understanding he will stand by you if not, then forget him hes not worth having you :) You deserve the best no matter what anyone says never ever get pushed into sex or anything you dont want to do, give it time angel and stay strong.

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