Date Posted:11:48:16 11/22/04 Mon Author: Nick T. Subject: lots of dynamics going on there In reply to:
Brother in Christ
's message, "Re: Can someone help Priscilla?" on 09:49:00 11/22/04 Mon
BIC,
What you describe is a nuclear bomb level of peer pressure. The ubf is doing this for their own purposes, not for the sake of the young man. They have set out to accomplish the following
1. Pull child deeper into ubf.
2. Placing all credit for good on ubf
3. Intimating that not continuing to be a ubfin will result in a loss of all this mighty 'work of God'
4. blurred the boundaries between what God does and what ubf and ubf leadrers do
5. destroyed the privacy of the issues that have come up among his family
There are many more dynamics going on in this scenario. As you pointed out, eventually the ubf will show itself as the people of conditional love. To me, this scenario is already demonstrating the conditional love. If the young person shrinks back at this time, even just a little, the ubfins will continue with their two edged sword, love bombing on one hand and guilt bombing on the other hand. The ubf has already begun to guilt bomb this young person.
What kind of group is ubf that they have to publically love/guilt bomb a teenager to soemhow prove they are reputable? Why can't they call upon their leaders to repent their vast sins, and then use that to claim they are reputable? How about if Ron W and Little Sarah and Sarah B publicly repent their adultery, and then use that to show that ubf has led them to repent and change? Why put all the burden of making ubf look legitmate on the shoulders of one teenager?
There are ways for the leaders of ubf to bring legitimacy to their group. Why can't Ron W come out and confess that he is a divorced man who is now a congregation leader, in violation of the Scripture (I Timothy 3), and step down? That would glorify God. Oh, but it would make ubf look not so holy.
