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Date Posted: 14:04:19 07/08/02 Mon
Author: Shannon
Subject: Believe in yourself!

Hi, I've just read through all the posts, and after being on the internet for awhile and reading about people like me wanting to lose weight, I've kind of become depressed. Everybody has become so obsessed with looking like those sickly models in magazines and billboards. I was good friends with a girl who was a model, and watching her having to eat every meal at a hospital through a tube was not a pretty site. Those models practically kill themselves to get to where they are...wasted away.What happened to the days when curves where sexy and womanly? Now we are supposed to have the body of a man?
Why don't we paste up pictures of ourselves in our slimmer days to encourage us, rather than women who eat a stick of celery for a meal and complain that they gained weight?
You know what?....
You women are all way more beautiful than they are because you have hope, and are working hard for something you belive in.We can't afford personal trainers and chefs. We EARN our rewards!

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[> Re: Believe in yourself! -- Betsy, 14:38:10 07/08/02 Mon

Hello Shannon

Very well said.

The first step I took to feeling good with myself is LOVING myself now.

I don't believe in comparing myself to others in a physical manner. Why I am here is to help support myself when I'm feeling "out of control" with food - to "RE-Mind" me that I am not alone.

I think I'm very good looking now - By loving my self (and my body now) I do good things for my body. It is the "self loathing" that I felt in the past that had me gain weight in the first place. As soon as I decided to Love myself - the weight came off a lot easier as I stopped the comparisions and the negative self talk .....

For me I know it is healthier if I was at a lighter weight. My goal is health.... I desire to live a very LONG time! Life is too much of a great adventure to die early when I don't need to. I am not looking to the media's images to find my health.

I actually won't buy any fashion magazines - or watch much Television as I believe it negatively effects my thoughts when I'm bombarded by impossible images.

That's my thoughts

Namaste
Betsy

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[> [> Re: Believe in yourself! -- Shannon, 08:09:35 07/09/02 Tue

Thanks Betsy,
I was worried that people would get angry with me for saying all that , but I'm glad you understand. I thought I was so ugly that I just kept eating. But now as I exercise more and feel better than ever, I know I will look better than ever too.(We look and feel better than any chick in a fashion mag hey?)
Thankyou so much!
Shannon

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[> Re: Believe in yourself! -- ivy, 12:58:15 07/09/02 Tue

I have to admitt that a personal trainer would be nice.... but YOu can't let other people's harships and journey's dictate your own success.... don't let it upset you... let it inspire you.... let it be a wake up call that even though others may not make it YOU will... and let stories of accomplishment INSPIRE you to do the same.....

it is unfortunate that we have to be in a world that values beauty among all else... but we are humans and that is what we are programmed for... looking for a mate with the most desireable features. But as intellegant beings we can now change the attitudes of people... one by one if nessisary. It will be eventually where no one mocks anyone for being different... but we have to start somewhere.... we all have to start with ourselves.

semper fi,
Ivy

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[> Re: Believe in yourself! -- Annie, 16:08:11 07/09/02 Tue

> I'm 45 years old and my weight has yo-yo'd up and down since I was 21 years old. I'm 5'6 and I remember thinking that I was really fat at 128 lbs. I went up to 155 when I was 23 years old and then dieted down to 110 pounds in just a few months ( of course I had a 2 year old I was chasing around) I took Dexatrim and only ate 1200 calories a day and exercised every night after my daughter went to bed. But I felt HORRIBLE! I ended up having stomach spasms and ended up in the hospital. The next year I was up to 128 and thought I was obese! I dieted and exercised down to 119 lbs. It's gone on and on. My parents are very weight conscious. When I asked about different relatives that they saw at a family reunion that I was unable to attend, they described everyone by how fat or skinny they were!
When I was going through a divorce at the age of 42, I lost weight and was down to 142 lbs. But then I got stressed ( a guy I was dating almost died - long story) and went up to 168 pounds. I met my current husband at this weight. (The guy that almost died dumped me a few months earlier- he had a lot of baggage, so it was for the best!) Then I went to Weight Watchers and lost 13 pounds. I found out I'm diabetic the next summer and ended up gaining weight again- this time up to 174 pounds. I also have high blood pressure. New Year's Eve 2002, I went on an eating binge and my sugar went up to almost 400. I felt so horrible that I decided that I needed to take care of my body and eat healthier. Now I'm down to 154 pounds and would like to settle at a healthy weight of 140. At this point of my life it is more of a health issue than looking like a model. I wish I would have taken control of my weight when I was younger. I probably wouldn't have become diabetic so soon!

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