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marriage

Author:
sana

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Date Posted: 09:12:08 10/08/02 Tue
Author Host/IP: b50.mi.mun.ca/198.165.42.50

Salaam,
I am a 19 yr. old girl living in USA and there's this guy (about 24 yrs. old) who lives in Pakistan. We met online, and we fell in love. I love him because he and his family are very very religious. He loves me a lot too, but I just want to know if I'm doing anything wrong by loving him? His family knows about me and we "might" get married after I complete my graduation (i'm currently in my 3rd year of university). I did Istekhaara once and after that I had good feeling for him. Do u think I should continue my relationship with him? We have never seen each other, but we love one another just because of the values, morals. etc.
Please advise me on this issue.

Sana

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[> Subject: Re: marriage

Author:
Moustafa Morsy
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Date Posted: 11:54:14 10/08/02 Tue
Author Host/IP: mt.24.171.69.29.charter-stl.com/24.171.69.29

Alikom Assalam
�I do not think that this is right.
It is known in the religion of Allaah that it is forbidden to follow in the footsteps of the Shaytaan. Everything that could lead a person to fall into haraam things is also haraam, even if in principle it is originally permitted. This is what the scholars call �the principle of warding off harm.�
Concerning this matter, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
�O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan.� [al-Noor 24:21].
You should tell your family or Wali, if he agreed ,then you could visit him with your Wali and make agreement otherwise you should stop this relationship .
Allah Knows Best.
Moustafa morsy