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Subject: Re: Advice and Support - URGENT! Author: Tammie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 10:19:33 02/08/02 Fri In reply to: James 's message, "Advice and Support - UNGENT!" on 14:06:46 02/07/02 Thu I wrote a long message but it got deleted, so this will be shorter, but more concise! Try not to intervene directly, as the bully will see that as a sign of weakness. Instead, this matter must be brought up and put forward to a teacher, or the Head, or your parents. Ignoring the bully, I've found, does not work. I was bullied when I was younger, and ignoration simply egged them on. Adults believe that 'children' or adolescents are harmless, and ignoring them is the answer. Yet many do not realise that much of the bitterness and hatred that comes through today's society is the result of a childhood such as this, full of meanness and bullying others. So do not accept 'ignore them and they'll go away'... coz it won't happen! Part of the thing that eggs them on is the feeling of power vs. meekness. Your sister must tell an adult about this, so that it can get sorted out. I'm speaking from experience, bringing the issue forward is the only way. But remember : what goes around comes around. The entire purpose and meaning of life revolves around trueness and consequence. The bully's attitude will backfire someday at the worst possible moment, whilst your sister and her beliefs will succeed and strike through. When this is sorted out, your sister will be the wiser, the winner. For she will have gained value of life, understanding, and wisdom - it is inevitable, when one is faced with the bitter end of life. It is a lesson that can only be learnt if one encounters it, as your sister has done. And if your sister is anything like me, she will take what she has learnt and use it for others' benefit, and not against them. A gift one can merely dream of unless they meet it head-on. The answer : Tell someone and don't settle for 'Ignore them!' Good luck to your sister! I'll be praying for her... Luv Tammie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]