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Subject: Re: I have no one else to turn to... Author: Lori [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 02/28/08 2:47am In reply to: Mandy 's message, "Re: I have no one else to turn to..." on 02/25/08 7:27am Hi Mandy, I do know what your going through. I experienced a unplanned pregnancy at the age of twenty as well. If you would like to read my story just go to http://www.geocities.com/pregnancyhelpnow/continuestories.html . You should take prenatal vitamins. If you go to your local drug store you can ask the pharmacist to show you the best. It's very important to get vitamins high in folic acid. If you go to your local crisis pregnancy center, they can give you information on adoption, they also can provide information about resources that are available to you such as prenatal insurance that is offered by the government. They also have counseling that is available. To find a local crisis pregnancy center close to you go to http://www.pregnancycenters.org/. We would love to support you in any way that we can. I do recommend that you tell your mom. I know that this may be the hardest thing that you have ever had to do but its very important to go ahead and let her know. Do you have a friend that you could possibly invite over so that you wouldn't have to be alone when you told her? There are many other ways to tell as well. I've heard of some women writing a letter to their mom and giving it to her. Please feel free to email me any time. And of course your welcome to the board any time, please continue to come back and give us a update. Your in my thought and prayers. God Bless, LOri [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: I have no one else to turn to... Author: Sharon [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03/ 3/08 2:35pm Mandy, I'm sorry you're going through all of this right now. One thing to life your spirits: you're almost past the morning sickness mark! Usually the morning sickness (or all day sickness, in my case ;-) ends when you leave the first trimester. I echo Lori's message that you need to get vitamins. I'd contact a local adoption agency - an area crisis pregnancy center can give you contact information on them. (Look in the Yellow Pages un "abortion alternatives" for crisis pregnancy centers.) Also, if money is an issue, most states have programs that will cover your prenatal visits and your labor and delivery. You'd want to check with your county health nurse and/or a crisis pregnancy center for information on that. Don't feel bad about choosing adoption. That is a VERY loving act. In fact, I'm always heartbroken by hearing women say they're choosing abortion because they couldn't stand to place their baby in an adoptive home. That seems so supremely selfish! So, the fact that you KNOW you're not ready to have a baby and know that you want your baby to grow up in a stable home says a GREAT deal about you as a mother. Even though you don't plan to raise your child, you are given him or her an incredible gift - a gift that reflect deep caring on your part. Have you thought about open adoption? There are varying levels of interaction that families and birth mothers choose, but basically you get to know the family adopting your baby and maintain contact with your baby as he or she grows. The women I know who've chosen this route have wonderful things to say about it. I'll say a prayer for you. Sharon