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Subject: Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help

Author:
Heather

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Date Posted: 02/24/09 3:57pm
In reply to: Su 's message, "Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help" on 02/24/09 7:21am

Hi Su,

I am late to this post and have just read the string. I can't add a whole lot more than the great posts that have already been written express.

I'd like to echo the great wisdom of calling the Pregnancy Resource Center near you, though. These are truly a one stop shop of every assistance you could ask for when pregnant - material and emotional. Everything is free, and you'd be surprised how much they can assist with.

In general - please know that you're definitely not alone, and that there is great hope. So many unplanned pregnancies have turned out not only "ok" but joyous even. It is truly a bumpy ride, many things in life are. But you, in my opinion, are in the hardest part of it right now. Once a woman is at peace with keeping her baby and looking forward from there, the stress level tends to drop dramatically and many other things start falling into place. Not perfectly, but well enough for her to be released to enjoy the miracle growing in her and look forward to life.

I'm sorry for the emotional turmoil you're in right now. Being a woman, and having watched many women in unplanned pregnancies on both ends of the spectrum of choice, I think a good piece of stability and wisdom is to make your decision right now based on what you know to be right, not what you feel. Reason being that truth is always truth and never changes, but our circumstances that produce the feelings of fear, despair, worry.....they all change at some time or another. Look back on your life already. You've no idea what even a year from now will look like, but abortion is permanent. Once that little one is terminated, they are gone forever and cannot be brought back, even when circumstances change later.

I am very tender to the great number of women out there struggling with the aftereffects of abortion, and know that most of them were not supported as they should have been, nor leveled with when they ought to have been.

So if your mind is telling you that you don't sit well with abortion, and would not like to end the life of the human being growing inside you - I would go with this and choose accordingly. Everything else can be managed, one way or another.

Welcome to the forum, by the way!

With Kindness,

Heather

P.S. - Leah, you are awesome beyond words. Thank you so much for being willing to open up. I'm very thankful things have worked out as they have for you. Peace be with you and your son!

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Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 02/24/09 6:49pm

Su,

You mention that your income was too high for WIC, but they will count your baby growing inside you, too, now. So, you actually would be a family of three - that would mean your income might qualify now. Something to look into.

As for HPV, unfortunately, it's a VERY common thing these days. The main thing is that you have to be extra careful to get regular PAP smears because it never really is eradicated from your system amd some forms of HPV seem to be associated with cervical cancer. But, like I said, these days it is unfortunately very common. HPV does not interfere with a pregnancy, so you should be fine that way.

You're in my prayers...

Sharon