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Re: Changed My Mind

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Tracey

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Date Posted: 03/22/09 3:02am
In reply to: Tracy 's message, "Changed My Mind" on 03/17/09 12:31am

Tracy~
Hello and welcome! Oh honey, I I know you feel so confused and alone in all this, but I want you to know that we are here to help. I first want to tell you that what you are feeling is very normal in the first trimester and sometimes throughout pregnancy. We have had four children in under 5 years and I specifically remember the first trimester for all of my pregnancies was just plain miserable. My hormones were all over the place, I just felt horrible, and the worst part is I couldn't even stand to be around myself some days! lol Give yourself a break--all that you have been through(miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, death of your mother during a pregnancy), it's no wonder you are feeling the way you are! Sometimes we deal with so much heartache or something traumatic from something that is meant to be amazing, that we build up a wall or don't know how to react when it does turn positive. Right now your body is busy busy busy creating a little miracle, but at the same time causing your hormones to go through the roof and using all your energy to form that little one. The daily stresses of wife and mother can make you feel like your walls are caving in around you. But I am here to hell you that you are not alone! You can do this!!! I LOVE having four. There's a completness to my family and I can remember when our son(our last), was born knowing that he completed this family! I am praying for you, Tracy. Please continue to keep coming back.
God bless,
Tracey

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Pat
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Date Posted: 03/22/09 7:41am

Tracy,

Please tell your husband that you need extra nourishing at this time.

When I was pregnant with our last child, I REALLY didn't want to be pregnant. I had had a rough time in the last couple of pregnancies, and I was tired. But abortion was out of the question. The birth was rough, too. I was in labor something like 33 hours.

But you know what? That son has been the most incredible blessing to us! He delighted me with many hours of beautiful classical guitar music. He was the only one available to take care of my mother-in-law when she was in her last year; her greatest desire was to stay in her apartment. She had given us everything she had because we had so many financial problems. She was always totally unconditionally loving and giving, and I wanted more than anything in the world to be able to grant her this last wish. So our youngest son moved in with her, and because he was there part of the time, she was able to stay. As a result of all this, in the end, she was able to accept Jesus as her Saviour, and she is now with him. Then our son did two tours of duty in Iraq. I can't imagine how difficult that must have been, and I am incredibly proud of him. He is a chaplain's assistant. And he has given us a wonderful grandson.

Take one day at a time. You will know why God has given you this incredible gift. But now, as Tracey says, your hormones aren't helping any. Hang in there. It does get better. Promise. Even with our youngest son, I was in love with him long before he was born.

Hugs,
Pat