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Subject: Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help

Author:
leah

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Date Posted: 03/27/09 9:57pm
In reply to: Su 's message, "Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help" on 03/27/09 12:59pm

Hi Su, I think you already have the answer figured out yourself,you did not mention one positive thing about him being there,he's acting very selfish and it is impacting you emotionally and physically. He's leaching your good energy please stay strong for your baby and your daughter.

How is your support system,do you have a close friend who could go with you to your appointments or someone you find to be a support? Is there anyone who you can just go for coffee with and chat and laugh? These are important times for you and you deserve to have someone happy and supportive to share with.

Good for you for wanting the best for your kids,of course you do...stay strong and don't forget that. The babies father is being disrespectful so those are qualities children pick up on including your daughter. You don't have to put up with his attitude toward you. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to you,please talk with someone about this,it is damaging and impacts you more than you will know.

Believe in yourself and look in the mirror every single day and tell yourself that you are strong and beautiful and worthy of so much more.

How are things going otherwise are you getting rest and eating ok? I am happy you posted I was wondering about you!

Hugs

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Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 03/27/09 10:33pm

Hi Su!

I think this site is as much for support of women as it is about abortion in particular, and I'm glad you unloaded a little.

I think if the baby's father is making you so uncomfortable during the sonograms, it's not a bad solution to simply go yourself. Or a third option is that you could let him know simply what the options are; that you'd like his presence if he's okay with being there and ok respecting you while you're there, but if he still has issues or feels stressed out that you'll be ok going alone.

15 weeks! Boy that flew by; you'll be feeling him/her moving around inside you soon. Do you intend to find out the gender?

Having been through some tumultuous times myself and knowing how they can disrupt the peace in your life, I know there's not a whole lot in human words or wisdom that can make the stress go away, but please know that you have a bunch of women here who are on your side and support you. :)

And also that the same God who made you and your baby unique as you both are is able to supply the grace you need to make it from day to day.

Take good care of yourself!

Love,

Heather