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Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help

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Su (Tired)

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Date Posted: 03/31/09 10:21am
In reply to: Su 's message, "Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help" on 02/19/09 7:27am

I have two friends that might go with me. The guy is my bestfriend but he is also friends with the baby's father and the father would deffinetly not like it if i asked my friend to come and not him. The other friend...well we run across each other every few months but she knows everything that is going on and she has been contacting me a little more then before. She has a very busy life(goes to school full time, works and takes care of her younger sister) and I feel bad asking her to take time out for me. Aside from that i dont really have anyone else. I havent told the rest of my family yet, I dont think i can handle what they will have to say about it just yet. I'm trying to eat regularly but i'm used to eating 2 or 3 meals a day and this baby makes me eat like a bird all day, so i dont eat actual meals and i dont know if im eating enough. I forget the pre-natal vitamins from time to time. Stress normally makes me forget things like that for myself. I normally take the back burner to everything else in my life. I know its bad, i have life growing inside of me right now. I should be more responsible for it. I'm deffanetly going to try and find out what the baby is. I'm hoping to have a boy so I can have my girl and boy. The father hasnt contacted me in about a week thank heavens. I feel a little bad because i always felt if the father wanted he should be there for the sonograms and heart beats and labor and delivery of the child. and I feel a little selfish for not wanting him near me during those things. I wanted to seperate my personal feelings from our situation so he could experiance everything (this is his first child) but its to difficult with the way he acts towards me. Hopefully things change some before our child is born.

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Re: My 3rd sonogram!

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Su (Ecstatic and peaceful)
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Date Posted: 04/21/09 7:00am

I went to my 3rd sonogram yesterday. Some time last week I emailed the father the appointment time and address and left it up to him to choose to come or not. He said he would and thanked me for letting him know. I asked my olest brother to come with me in case the father didnt show. My oldest brothers been pretty upset with me but hes ok now and proud that I'm not running from my responsibilities by aborting or giving up for adoption. The father actually showed up to the sonogram and though it was a tad awkward at first everything was ok. I asked if we could find out the gender of the baby and its a BOY!! We're all very excited! I wanted a little boy because I already have a little girl and I want to experience both. My brother was happy because he has a son which is the only little boy in our family and now he will have a little boy cusin to play with. And the father was happy because well, as far as i know almost every guy wants a boy lol. As of right now, all is good. My daughter is also very excited she is going to have a little brother and keeps asking me to give me the baby or when he is coming. I pray every night that everything turns out well and I thank God for everyone that has encuraged me threw this especially all of you on here. I want to say again Thank you for your kind words and time and for keeping me in your prayers.

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Re: My 3rd sonogram!

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Lori
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Date Posted: 04/21/09 5:06pm

Hi Su,

Congratulations... It's a boy!! I have two boys and there is never a dull moment =) Seriously, their fun and wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I'm glad that the child's father decided to come to the sonogram. That really is a big step not much compared to what you are going through but at least he is trying. I will keep you in my prayers. Please continue to keep us updated!

Take Care,
Lori